The worst month imaginable.

SallyB

Registered User
May 7, 2005
60
Hi Everyone, Haven't been around for a while. Just wanted to update those of you who have been a massive support to me.

My wonderful Dad passed away last Sunday after being out of hospital for just over four weeks. He went peacefully but I wasn't with him. After all the hours I spent with him including three full nights last week. I guess he wanted to do it by himself. He was talking to me in the morning and asked the staff to call me so that is a lovely memory.

Dad's going is made even worse for Dean and I as his Grandma died three weeks before. As some of you may remember she had moved in with us after surgery in march. So Dad came out of hospital on the Monday and She went back in the next day. She was 84 but we werent expecting to loose her. Infact we had told her that Dad was dying. When the phone rang early on sunday the 16th July I was expecting it to be Dad. But it was the hospital. We got to her in time but she passed away 4 hours later. 4 weeks today that happened.

What a month, although she was Deans grandma she brought him up so we have lost the two most important people in our lives in three weeks.

Sometimes I just wonder if someone is having a laugh at our expense!

Dad going is just so hard, I thought i was prepared, well as prepared as you can be. I couls see how tired and week he was, but it doesn't make it any easier when you love so deeply.

Well I think that is enough for now, don't want to go on!

I would like to say a big thank you to everyone that has answered my posts in the past and helped me get through some hard times.

Not quite sure what i will do with my time now they have both gone!

Sally xx
 

daughter

Registered User
Mar 16, 2005
824
Sally, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. It must be so hard on both you and Dean. I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you. Love from Hazel.
 

dmc

Registered User
Mar 13, 2006
1,157
hi sally

just wanted to send my condolences on both your losses
take care
 

janew

Registered User
Mar 28, 2005
51
55
Sally & Dean,

Just wanted to send my condolences to you both at this sad time.

Jane
 

Áine

Registered User
Feb 22, 2006
994
sort of north east ish
sorry to hear your news

Sally and Dean

Thinking of you at this sad time. How difficult to lose two so very important people in such a short space of time. Give yourselves time and take care of yourselves (and each other :) )

love

Áine
 

alex

Registered User
Apr 10, 2006
1,665
Hi Sally

Sorry to here of your sad loss, as you say you can never prepare yourself for the loss of someone you love so much, try to find comfort in the joy they brought to your life (even through this illness).
I know its so hard to bear ......... but when your hurting remember that someone who loves you would not wish to see you in this kind of pain.

Hope you feel better soon
Best wishes
Love Alex x
 

Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
71,740
Kent
Sally and Dean

So sorry to hear of the deaths of your Dad and Dean`s Grandma, 2 such sad losses, so close together. Those who died have endured suffering,as you have, but I hope you will be able to get some consolation from knowing that they, at least, have now found peace.

Allow yourselves time to grieve.

With love Grannie G
 

bebee.

Registered User
Mar 24, 2006
12
oxon,south.
Upset!!

Hello i am 67 years old and my wife is 68 and her behaviour is going mayhem, how do other carer's cope with this disease?? Any tip's would be very helpful.Please write back:) :)
 

dmc

Registered User
Mar 13, 2006
1,157
new thread

hello bebee

i think you would get more posts if you opened a new post instead of adding yours to this one perhaps you could give us some indication of your wifes behaviour, how long she has had dementia, etc in what way is her behaviour going mayhem?
look forward to hearing from you
take care

p.s

i should have added that if you go to the main Support for people with dementia and their carers thread on the top left hand corner it has "new thread" if you press that it will take you to you own thread, i hope thats clear enough for you.
 
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jarnee

Registered User
Mar 18, 2006
181
leicestershire
Perhaps somebody clever can move Bebee's post to a new thread ??!!

Anyway, so sorry to hear of your loss. Nothing any of us can say will really help but i hope it helps to know you have so very many people sending you thoughts and prayers at this time.
Jarnee
xxxxxx
 

Áine

Registered User
Feb 22, 2006
994
sort of north east ish
hi bebee

hi bebee

welcome to TP. like donna says, it's best to start a new thread and introduce yourself there. it's all a bit confusing finding your way around discussion forums if you're not used to them, but i'm sure you'll soon get the hang of it. if you don't manage to start a new thread i'm sure one of the mods will be able to move this for you. :)

best wishes

Áine
 

dmc

Registered User
Mar 13, 2006
1,157
thanks áine and jarnee,
i got into a lot of bother when i tried to move a post myself:eek: this week made a right pigs ear of it, :D
hope i havent intervened too much this time:rolleyes:
 

Tender Face

Account Closed
Mar 14, 2006
5,379
NW England
Sally

My condolences to you. I've yet to know anyone who can say that all the 'preparation' in the world makes losing someone you love any easier ... to lose two much loved and very significant people within such a short space of time is heart-breakingly cruel ... do all you need to take care of yourself .. sure you and Dean will find a new source of strength out of this tragic time...

Thinking of you both,

Love, Karen (TF), x
 

mel

Registered User
Apr 30, 2006
1,656
63
Sheffield
Hi Sally
I'm so sorry to hear your news....give yourselves time to grieve and look on this as hitting rock bottom ....the only way is up from now...
Love
Wendy
x
 

SallyB

Registered User
May 7, 2005
60
Thank you all for your reply's.

Dad's funeral is tomorow so am trying to prepare for that. Going to be difficult as it appears there will be lots of people that he hasn't seen for years or in some cases doesn't even know!

Good old funeral, gauranteed to bring em out of the wood work eh!?

Sally
 

jeannette

Registered User
Feb 27, 2006
55
I wish you strength and peace and love through the funeral and afterwards.
So very sorry.
Jeannette
 

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