Hey everyone,
Sorry I haven’t been able to keep up with the messages, I’m in my final year of a HND so I’m quite busy! Sorry, to hear some of you are having a bad time at the minute.
Well, my granny saw her dementia consultant a few weeks ago, her score has dropped from 17 to 13 in 4 months! So, social services came out to assess my grandmother again yesterday, and they couldn’t believe how much she’s deteriorated. The man that came out, Cathal, said she is in the advanced stages, whereas my Mum thought she was still moderate. My grandad (who isn’t keen on support) left the room and hid in the dining room while it was all going on. Then once the assessment was finished Cathal called my Mum and Grandad into the kitchen and categorically told my Grandad that if my Mum wasn’t looking after my Granny that she would be in a nursing home and that there will come a point when my Mum won’t be able to cope anymore. So, they’re offering 7 hours per week and 2 baths. Which my grandad agreed with.....yesterday. He rang at 9am this morning (we have caller display and my Mum nearly had a heart attack coz he was ringing so early - she thought something was wrong). But he said “no, nothings wrong I was just wondering if you’d already arranged that home help thing”, and my Mum said “no I haven’t why are you asking?” and he said “I’ve changed my mind I don’t want it anymore”!!! I mean, how stubborn can you be?!! It's his pig-headedness that's causing my Mum to be stressed out and he's also not helping my grandmother. He has a thing in his head that home-helps are all bad people that could steal from you, etc.!
Plus, the other thing is my Mum and Dad are going on a well deserved holiday at the end of March, therefore, my Granny will be without her carer for a week. I’m not really in the position to do anything during the week as I’m at college but I will gladly do it at the weekend when I’m home. My Mum has 5 brothers and 1 sister but it will be an absolute battle to get them to do anything since they lead “very important lives and have very important jobs”!! In reality they’ll only have to do one day each coz I’ll do Saturday and Sunday but they’ll still moan about it! They’ll probably also complain about my Mum going away but if they had to do what she does for 50 weeks of the year they’d need a holiday too! My Mum and Dad could go on holidays 3/4 times a year if they wanted but because of the situation with my granny they can’t.
Sorry for venting on you all! Thanks for listening!
Lots of Love
Sony
Sorry I haven’t been able to keep up with the messages, I’m in my final year of a HND so I’m quite busy! Sorry, to hear some of you are having a bad time at the minute.
Well, my granny saw her dementia consultant a few weeks ago, her score has dropped from 17 to 13 in 4 months! So, social services came out to assess my grandmother again yesterday, and they couldn’t believe how much she’s deteriorated. The man that came out, Cathal, said she is in the advanced stages, whereas my Mum thought she was still moderate. My grandad (who isn’t keen on support) left the room and hid in the dining room while it was all going on. Then once the assessment was finished Cathal called my Mum and Grandad into the kitchen and categorically told my Grandad that if my Mum wasn’t looking after my Granny that she would be in a nursing home and that there will come a point when my Mum won’t be able to cope anymore. So, they’re offering 7 hours per week and 2 baths. Which my grandad agreed with.....yesterday. He rang at 9am this morning (we have caller display and my Mum nearly had a heart attack coz he was ringing so early - she thought something was wrong). But he said “no, nothings wrong I was just wondering if you’d already arranged that home help thing”, and my Mum said “no I haven’t why are you asking?” and he said “I’ve changed my mind I don’t want it anymore”!!! I mean, how stubborn can you be?!! It's his pig-headedness that's causing my Mum to be stressed out and he's also not helping my grandmother. He has a thing in his head that home-helps are all bad people that could steal from you, etc.!
Plus, the other thing is my Mum and Dad are going on a well deserved holiday at the end of March, therefore, my Granny will be without her carer for a week. I’m not really in the position to do anything during the week as I’m at college but I will gladly do it at the weekend when I’m home. My Mum has 5 brothers and 1 sister but it will be an absolute battle to get them to do anything since they lead “very important lives and have very important jobs”!! In reality they’ll only have to do one day each coz I’ll do Saturday and Sunday but they’ll still moan about it! They’ll probably also complain about my Mum going away but if they had to do what she does for 50 weeks of the year they’d need a holiday too! My Mum and Dad could go on holidays 3/4 times a year if they wanted but because of the situation with my granny they can’t.
Sorry for venting on you all! Thanks for listening!
Lots of Love
Sony