I am really scared- my Mum who cares for my Gran (who has late stage Vascular dementia) in our house has a skin lesion, which the GP thinks is a squamous cell carcinoma. She has been fainting a lot and having oesophageal spasms and I'm terrified that she might be very ill. My Gran has been in and out of hospital, up all night, screaming/hitting/trying to escape from our house, pooing everywhere etc etc. for 6+ years and now has to be carried to loo several times a night and doesn't understand anything. At 90 she has lived more than her fair share of years- what if something happens to my mum? I am so anxious and just want to warn people NOT to have their demented relatives living with them if they can possibly help it (my parents have no other choice). It is simply not worth it.