I, too, am surprised when people ask how often I visit my husband. Where else would I be? I am doing some other things, piano, tai chi, WI, but don’t all married couples spend time together each day? Maybe when he doesn’t know who I am or whether I’m there or not, maybe then I won’t visit every day. But I’ve been widowed before...and you are a long time alone. While I have him here, I will visit.
@tuffydawn, I have found that once the crying starts, it lasts a few days and then passes...until the next time. It does you good though. It was once thought that tears had a healing property, and there were even little vessels to collect them. I’m not sure about that, but I do know that I feel better after crying. Definitely more healthy than keeping it all in. It is very lonely crying alone, and although we cannot give you a physical hug, you can always share your feelings here with people who really do understand.