Firstly many thanks for your lovely advice in my first ever post , I feel at home already !! X
What sort on a weekly basis is a care home because I think with a bit of extra help at home we may find ourselves in a better situation
I will phone adult social services on Monday and try and get an assessment of dads and mums needs as his main carer ......and ask about respite ......I know there is a council run day centre just up the road but dad is not a very social person at all....but my mother must have some breathing space one way or another and its either day centre and home help or a care home , I simply can't see any other solution
Best wishes to all of you
I should mention that dad is very weak on his feet , to the point of us about to fit a stairlift through a local charity and we have already had the bathroom made into a wet room so a lot of driving him around to social meetings isn't really practicable as it takes so long to get him in and out of the car ....he is literally housebound
Both me and mum like having him here as he is mostly quiet , peaceful and not aggressive but it just gets so draining sometimes .......especially when he needs a lot of personal care .....the problem is I am sure we could sort out a package to help get him washed and dressed in the morning but when he is incontinent that comes without warning , often at three on a Tuesday , early hours .....how can that be dealt with apart from him being in a home twenty four seven ?
Have a good day , bless you
What sort on a weekly basis is a care home because I think with a bit of extra help at home we may find ourselves in a better situation
I will phone adult social services on Monday and try and get an assessment of dads and mums needs as his main carer ......and ask about respite ......I know there is a council run day centre just up the road but dad is not a very social person at all....but my mother must have some breathing space one way or another and its either day centre and home help or a care home , I simply can't see any other solution
Best wishes to all of you
I should mention that dad is very weak on his feet , to the point of us about to fit a stairlift through a local charity and we have already had the bathroom made into a wet room so a lot of driving him around to social meetings isn't really practicable as it takes so long to get him in and out of the car ....he is literally housebound
Both me and mum like having him here as he is mostly quiet , peaceful and not aggressive but it just gets so draining sometimes .......especially when he needs a lot of personal care .....the problem is I am sure we could sort out a package to help get him washed and dressed in the morning but when he is incontinent that comes without warning , often at three on a Tuesday , early hours .....how can that be dealt with apart from him being in a home twenty four seven ?
Have a good day , bless you