This has been a very wobbly week
Monday the Dementia Care Advisor came, She was very nice and helpful, she asked if we understood the diagnosis, so I said I did but that Tom, well not really. So she talked about to him about his memory not being so good and he agreed that yes his memory was rubbish.. So far so good, I thought..
She then proceeded to talk about dementia and how it is always progressive and that there is no cure.. Now some people may want or even need this sort of information. I know Tom and he doesn't
When he was told he had prostrate cancer he just blanked it, I sorted all his treatment and kept his life on an even keel so he could just ignore the whole thing. When I had cancer he just totally ignored the whole thing SO I KNOW HE DIDNOT NEED TO HEAR THIS !!
Ok he should forget shouldn't he when I forgot something today he told me I had dementia
The poor Man in India.. Oh I will get to him
Anyway she talked about direct payment for sitters and live in care if I need a break as at least she agreed that to take him out of a known environment would be detrimental to his independence. she also advised us to get Lasting power of Attorney before Tom is deemed incapable of understanding.. So I have made inquiries about that..When I come back in my next life, it will be as a solicitor
Anyway he has also seen a vascular surgeon this week about pains in leg.. Op to be arranged later (under a local) he has had his hormone injection for his prostate cancer, his B12 injection and seen his psychiatrist.. And I am having a couple of days away nest week.. He will have 24hour live in care (money and blackmail, a net book, works well with his great-grandson, out of work at the moment.) He is brilliant and can cope with wandering at night! No Grandpops you don't get up at 3am and no we are not going to the pub it is closed
So yes I can understand the muttering, swearing and aggression; he is feeling very confused and vulnerable. But it is scary and wearing..
Oh you are still waiting to hear about the poor man in India
Well late this afternoon the telephone rang.. Fine.. You all know that brief silent gap that means an overseas call center
WELL.. this man in India asks for my Mum, NO NOT A GOOD IDEA..
So my conversation went like this;
"If you don't stop calling to speak to my Mum who died 5 years ago; I swear to god I will find you and wrap the phone cord around your f###ing neck
Not sure why but he hung up !!
Yes I know he got the lot, but these calls just go on without end and I know my Mum would have approved
So I am now here with my wine and my music.. maybe next week I will be back at the Docs for a return to the antidepressants..
Are any of you still reading ??
Thanks for sticking with me, I appreciate it..
Monday the Dementia Care Advisor came, She was very nice and helpful, she asked if we understood the diagnosis, so I said I did but that Tom, well not really. So she talked about to him about his memory not being so good and he agreed that yes his memory was rubbish.. So far so good, I thought..
She then proceeded to talk about dementia and how it is always progressive and that there is no cure.. Now some people may want or even need this sort of information. I know Tom and he doesn't
When he was told he had prostrate cancer he just blanked it, I sorted all his treatment and kept his life on an even keel so he could just ignore the whole thing. When I had cancer he just totally ignored the whole thing
SO I KNOW HE DIDNOT NEED TO HEAR THIS !! Ok he should forget shouldn't he
when I forgot something today he told me I had dementiaThe poor Man in India.. Oh I will get to him
Anyway she talked about direct payment for sitters and live in care if I need a break as at least she agreed that to take him out of a known environment would be detrimental to his independence. she also advised us to get Lasting power of Attorney before Tom is deemed incapable of understanding.. So I have made inquiries about that..When I come back in my next life, it will be as a solicitor
Anyway he has also seen a vascular surgeon this week about pains in leg.. Op to be arranged later (under a local) he has had his hormone injection for his prostate cancer, his B12 injection and seen his psychiatrist.. And I am having a couple of days away nest week.. He will have 24hour live in care (money and blackmail, a net book, works well with his great-grandson, out of work at the moment.) He is brilliant and can cope with wandering at night! No Grandpops you don't get up at 3am and no we are not going to the pub it is closed
So yes I can understand the muttering, swearing and aggression; he is feeling very confused and vulnerable. But it is scary and wearing..
Oh you are still waiting to hear about the poor man in India
Well late this afternoon the telephone rang.. Fine.. You all know that brief silent gap that means an overseas call center
WELL.. this man in India asks for my Mum, NO NOT A GOOD IDEA..
So my conversation went like this;
"If you don't stop calling to speak to my Mum who died 5 years ago; I swear to god I will find you and wrap the phone cord around your f###ing neck
Not sure why but he hung up !!
Yes I know he got the lot, but these calls just go on without end and I know my Mum would have approved
So I am now here with my wine and my music.. maybe next week I will be back at the Docs for a return to the antidepressants..
Are any of you still reading ??
Thanks for sticking with me, I appreciate it..
