Our mother is currently in respite care with a view to being assessed regarding her long term care needs. We, my brother and I, know that she needs to go into 24/7 nursing and dementia care. We had hoped that mum would go into respite care in a more managed way. However, she had two falls and was discharged to respite care following a short admission to hospital. We are currently in the process of finding suitable long term care. I truly understand that it is best for mum to go into long term care. From a personal perspective the carer role has hit me harder than I realised and I am currently on sick leave from work with reactive anxiety. I have been off for two weeks and will be away from work for a further two weeks. I know that it will take me some time to get back to normal and, indeed,it will be a new normal. I did not realise the physical and emotional impact the carer role had taken on me.How did you recover physically and emotionally? I am particularly interested in recovering my sleep pattern. I find it difficult to get off to sleep and still wake up frequently during the night. How did you prepare for them going into 24/7 care? Many thanks.