Last year I tried taking my husband to day care. He got very angry and refused to stay. Now he has started going twice a week - he's only had 3 sessions but it's all going well. How come? It's because he has deteriorated so much. He's incontinent, he shuffles rather than walks, he seldom speaks or reacts to speech. He's hardly aware of anything happening around him. It's all happened so quickly. Three months ago we were going out for meals, travelling by train, meeting up with friends. And that's it. I see it every day and I can still hardly believe that this is the new "normal".