The Moon is a Harsh Mistress

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by northumbrian_k, Sep 8, 2019.

  1. northumbrian_k

    northumbrian_k Registered User

    Mar 2, 2017
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    Despite the depths of her dementia I still look for things that might still strike a chord of recognition with my wife. One that does is the moon. I would often call my wife through to our kitchen to see how the silver light from a full moon lit up the darkened room. When we took the dog out late at night we could have an almost sensible conversation about the beauty of the moon, in all different phases, hanging above the moor near to our house. There was still some connection. I was reminded of this tonight walking home by moonlight with my faithful hound. I hope that now she is in care she still loves to see the moon as much as she always did.

    Many years ago she introduced me to the lovely Jimmy Webb song as sung by Judy Collins. But my favourite of all the versions that I have heard is by a particularly sensitive and vulnerable sounding Joe Cocker. It sums up my wife, especially since dementia took over her personality. "The moon is a harsh mistress, it's hard to love her well ..."

     
  2. Roseleigh

    Roseleigh Registered User

    Dec 26, 2016
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    What a lovely memory Northumbria.
     
  3. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

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    Bill and I loved the moon too @northumbrian_k. I still look at the moon and say out loud the words we always used to say together 'La Luna, la Bella Luna' - from our favourite film - Moonstruck.



    I enjoyed listening to that music. It was new to me.
     
  4. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
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    Very poignant words, I can understand how it speaks to you. Xxx
     
  5. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

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  6. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
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    :)Made me smile, I love the gravelly voice too.
     
  7. PalSal

    PalSal Registered User

    I wish we had music in common but it was never so. Enjoyed your share. I hope your wife gets to gaze on the moon from time to time....
     
  8. northumbrian_k

    northumbrian_k Registered User

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    #8 northumbrian_k, Sep 13, 2019
    Last edited: Sep 13, 2019
    It was an even more beautiful moon last night, rising behind the clouds then suddenly revealed. I remarked on it to Knight but, being a hound, he had other things on his mind. Rather like my wife nowadays ...

    Moon over the moor September 2019.jpg
     
  9. Weihua

    Weihua Registered User

    Apr 12, 2019
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    I could feel your love to her, so many sentimental journey with my husband is no longer share , so sad when I can not get responses
     
  10. Linton

    Linton Registered User

    Jul 27, 2019
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    Hi northumbrian_k.. You just made my day feel bearable... Love the song and to others.. Moonstruck my all time favourite film.. Love the moon which I see a lot these days when we get up... So good to share things... We all need so much support... Xxx
     

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