1. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    787
    Buckinghamshire
    I have been on many trips and journeys, waving people goodbye at railway stations and airports ....... now, after 8 years of the 'long goodbye', we find ourselves on this utterly surreal platform, exchanging hugs, kisses, love and tears, waiting for the toughest of 'goodbyes' ever ........ we were told on Tuesday afternoon that 'the end' is near, my husband is being kept comfortable and (hopefully) painfree, but with organ failure and severe dehydration, he is being allowed to stay at home, waiting for nature to take its course.
    After the initial shock and denial (so not ready to give up!!), there is a strange peace and calm in and around us. He is not struggling, and we are trying to surround him with love, music and positive thoughts. Time is standing still. After worrying about this for so long, I can't quite take it in that we are now in this situation. I am so utterly sad, but I am also grateful that he is here with us and we can be with him.
    (If there was I smiley with a little tear in its eye, I'd replace the one in my signature .....)
     
  2. Tina

    Tina Registered User

    May 19, 2006
    420
    Dear Nutty Nan,

    I have been following your threads and am so sad for you and yours that this time has now come. But how wonderful to read that your husband is at home and accompanied on his way by his family who will make sure his journey is a peaceful one and he can go safely and quietly.

    Feeling for you and sending you caring thoughts and this sad time,
    love Tina
     
  3. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,903
    Kent
    Nutty Nan

    It has been a long journey for you my dear and I hope the end continues to be as peaceful you have desribed it.
    With love xx
     
  4. Lynne

    Lynne Registered User

    Jun 3, 2005
    3,433
    Suffolk,England
    #4 Lynne, Jun 12, 2008
    Last edited: Jun 12, 2008
    Nutty Nan

    That empty phrase, "Thinking of you" but can't think of anything else to say.

    Love
     

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  5. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Dear Nan

    Your signature says it all. :)

    You have done everything you possibly could for your husband, have changed whatever you could change -- and are now showing the serenity you asked for. You are an example to us all.

    I wish you, your husband and your family the serenity to bring this journey to a peaceful end.

    Love,
     
  6. christine_batch

    christine_batch Registered User

    Jul 31, 2007
    3,388
    Buckinghamshire
    Dear Nan,
    May God grant you and your family the strength to help you through this very difficult time.
    Best wishes
    Christine
     
  7. andrear

    andrear Registered User

    Feb 13, 2008
    402
    Yorkshire
    HI Nutty Nan

    My thoughts go out to you at this fragile time you are now entering.
    Please take care of yourself.
    Love AndreaX
     
  8. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    What lovely thoughts . sending you both my love .
     
  9. angela.robinson

    angela.robinson Registered User

    Dec 27, 2004
    520
    Dear Nan,there is a tear in my eye as i read this post ,i have always followed your threads,as we had so much in common and we joined TP around the same time,though i lost my husband 3 yr`s back.I have admired your determination to keep your dear husband at home,and cope with all this dreadfull illness has thrown at you, i hope the end is peacefull, what nicer than having your loved one at home surrounded with music, family, and great love .Take care.
    Luv n` Hugs.
    Angela.xxxxxx
     
  10. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,158
    Toronto, Canada
    Dear Nan,
    So sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you at this difficult time.
    Love,
     
  11. Linda Mc

    Linda Mc Registered User

    Jul 3, 2005
    1,881
    Nr Mold
    Dear Nan

    May peace and serenity stay with you and your family.

    Thinking of you.

    Love Linda x
     
  12. Mameeskye

    Mameeskye Registered User

    Aug 9, 2007
    1,669
    NZ
    Hi Nan

    This is a goodbye but this transition time is so very special, and to be peaceful and accepting will give you some beautiful, if very sad memories.

    Love to you all in this vigil

    Mameeskye
     
  13. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    My dear Carmen.

    May you find the strength and peace you need at this time.
    Love, I know, is there in abundance.
    Thinking of you both.
     
  14. gigi

    gigi Registered User

    Nov 16, 2007
    7,788
    East Midlands
    Oh Nan,

    I recall this surreal feeling from when my dad died at home..

    Mum and I played his favourite music..I sat by his side and read his favourite words..it was peaceful..and beautiful in a strange way..
    And very comforting to us...

    I sincerely hope it will be the same for you..and your husband..

    My love and thoughts are with you...gigi xx
     
  15. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    After such a long difficult time, I do hope that you are blessed now with the peace and inner strength you need.
    God Bless and loving thoughts are heading your way.
    Love Jan

    (attached: smiley with tear :eek:
     
  16. Bristolbelle

    Bristolbelle Registered User

    Aug 18, 2006
    1,847
    Bristol
    I've trodden a similar path...

    ... and as you describe so it was when Dad died. After being there and sharing such a peaceful end was a great comfort to us all, I hope and trust that peace will be with you now. Gentle thoughts

    Firebelle
     
  17. barbara h

    barbara h Registered User

    Feb 15, 2008
    96
    county durham
    Like everyone else it is difficult to know what to say just to echo other people's words and wish your husband peace at the end of this long journey.

    Take care
    Barbara h
     
  18. LIZ50

    LIZ50 Registered User

    Mar 23, 2008
    56
    Hampshire
    Dear Nan

    So sorry to hear your news but hope that you will continue to find the strength to carry you through this sad time.
    Thinking of you.
    Love Lizx
     
  19. alfjess

    alfjess Registered User

    Jul 10, 2006
    1,213
    south lanarkshire
    Dear Nan

    Thinking of you and your family.

    Love
    Alfjess
     
  20. lesmisralbles

    lesmisralbles Account Closed

    Nov 23, 2007
    5,543
    Thinking of you
    God Bless
    Love Barb & Ron XX
     

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