I really feel the need to post as I am so furious at the "invisibles" in my mothers life and one in particular - My sister. I could write a book but here is the summary. Middle sister is totally selfish and always has been. When we were kids she hid in the toilet when it was time to do the dishes and has not changed since then. She has managed to get around £30K from mum over the last 20 years for various reasons. Mum has enough sense to make me POA. I only had to start managing the money in the last 9 months and found all of the large withdrawals. I did not say anything to mum or sister - it was too late. Once that took place sister stopped visiting or phoning. She knows she is cut off so there is no reason to visit. Mum has seen her twice in the last 9 months. Went taken to the hospital by ambulance in March she told A&E to phone me as she does not see mum. my question is how do the invisibles manage to live with themselves. While Mum was at home I was stressed to death worrying if she was OK. I was worn out from helping keep her home and safe. Today I find out dear sister had lovely pizza party for another relative. I feel like I am in recovery after all of the trauma of the last two years. Meanwhile she is not bothered. How can we have the same parents? How do I get past this anger? Its eating me up. Anyone been in the same situation?