Apologies another Rant! So today the interfering cousin (who visits once a week for an hour) had been to America to a cousins memorial with the invisible (brother in law). I asked the M-in-law (who lives with us) how did the cousin say it went did she represent us? Oh the cousin she said there were alot of people there at the memorial (we were not asked to go as we are the bad guys in all this - don't ask all about money, we look after her but are now excluded because of the invisible bad mouthing us - if only they knew the truth!). So I asked, "so has the invisible phoned about it all?" Why would he phone the MIL says - I said because you paid for half his fare to go to the memorial and half the fare to the interfering cousin. Did I, how did I do that - I didn't know he was going he lives in New Zealand (he actually lives in London). I sighed - he can take her money (we were aware of this though about the money for the flights) go to America on a 9 hour flight but he cannot take a day or two over a weekend, to get on a 40 minute flight (from London where he lives) to see his mother (the last time was September) yet he can bad mouth us, try and get solicitors against us (he didn't get anywhere) and do nothing to help, never phoned past or present to see how she was, turn the extended family against the two people who care for his mother 24/7. I am now a great believer in Karma! Apologies - Yet another rant over!!