My Outreach worker told me months back of the importance of routine for mum and I have tried my best to stick to visiting at preset times during the week/weekend around work etc….. I kinda subscribed to the idea …. If it’s Wednesday, her buddy’s coming … if it’s Saturday she expects her newspaper (for the TV Guide to turn over each day thru’ the week to remind her what day it is) …. or is it because she’s got her newspaper that she is reminded it’s Saturday? Whichever, I could see some benefit as aide-memoire for her ……
With a change in work pattern I am now trying to establish new routines …. but have to question just how much benefit there is for mum in this now and whether I am actually tying myself in unnecessary knots trying to stick to a ‘timetable‘?
‘Routines’ are generally thrown out by mum’s various appointments (necessitating flexibility at work taking time off and then having to work extra to make up) - or indeed mum’s own ‘fluctuations’ both mentally and physically (Monday she presented as ‘at death’s door’ (her words) and even agreed to a wheelchair at hospital without the usual argument - Tuesday she was able to take herself off to the local hairdressers )
I wondered if anyone had been given similar advice - and followed it or not (!)…
(BTW this was advice was received at a point when mum was clearly suffering from ‘memory problems’ but had not had the subsequent diagnosis in which an element of LBD was mooted - months on with such changes in her presentation/mood/behaviour/abilities etc from day to day or even hour to hour …. I am wondering if trying to stick to routine is too rigid for both of us and I need to adopt a more ‘go with the flow’ approach (I think I’ve just answered my own question ……) …. but would be grateful for any thoughts ……
Many thanks,
Karen,
With a change in work pattern I am now trying to establish new routines …. but have to question just how much benefit there is for mum in this now and whether I am actually tying myself in unnecessary knots trying to stick to a ‘timetable‘?
‘Routines’ are generally thrown out by mum’s various appointments (necessitating flexibility at work taking time off and then having to work extra to make up) - or indeed mum’s own ‘fluctuations’ both mentally and physically (Monday she presented as ‘at death’s door’ (her words) and even agreed to a wheelchair at hospital without the usual argument - Tuesday she was able to take herself off to the local hairdressers )
I wondered if anyone had been given similar advice - and followed it or not (!)…
(BTW this was advice was received at a point when mum was clearly suffering from ‘memory problems’ but had not had the subsequent diagnosis in which an element of LBD was mooted - months on with such changes in her presentation/mood/behaviour/abilities etc from day to day or even hour to hour …. I am wondering if trying to stick to routine is too rigid for both of us and I need to adopt a more ‘go with the flow’ approach (I think I’ve just answered my own question ……) …. but would be grateful for any thoughts ……
Many thanks,
Karen,