Hi To all my TP friends. To update you on how Jim is getting on in the NH. He is very unsettled and each time I go see him he says he wants to come home.
After a while he calms down and we have a general chat about things ...he thinks he is there as some kind of punishment...That is not the case he also promises that he will let me rest and not be so demanding on me ...he never left my side when he was at home and refused to go to the day centre or give me any respite at all what do I do ...I love him dearly but my health suffered so much when I was his carer 24/7.
He was also extremely jealous of my children and would complain if they rang me or If I wanted to see them ..I very rarely saw my grandchildren as he would behave so badly if they came to visit.
I am so torn I would have another go at caring for him at home but it would make it so my life was over He would expect me to spend all my time on him and I know I would lose some contact with my children...Jim does not have a close relationship with his own children. so does not understand the bond I have with mine.
I feel as though the life has been drained out of me and if it were not for the distress that it would cause my children I would consider ending my life.
Jim presents very well and I feel that the SS and mental health team are more concerned about him than me and I feel as though I am expected to give up any form of life of my own.
Sorry it is such a depressing post...there is a case meeting on the 1st October and I am dreading it .
Judith
After a while he calms down and we have a general chat about things ...he thinks he is there as some kind of punishment...That is not the case he also promises that he will let me rest and not be so demanding on me ...he never left my side when he was at home and refused to go to the day centre or give me any respite at all what do I do ...I love him dearly but my health suffered so much when I was his carer 24/7.
He was also extremely jealous of my children and would complain if they rang me or If I wanted to see them ..I very rarely saw my grandchildren as he would behave so badly if they came to visit.
I am so torn I would have another go at caring for him at home but it would make it so my life was over He would expect me to spend all my time on him and I know I would lose some contact with my children...Jim does not have a close relationship with his own children. so does not understand the bond I have with mine.
I feel as though the life has been drained out of me and if it were not for the distress that it would cause my children I would consider ending my life.
Jim presents very well and I feel that the SS and mental health team are more concerned about him than me and I feel as though I am expected to give up any form of life of my own.
Sorry it is such a depressing post...there is a case meeting on the 1st October and I am dreading it .
Judith