Hi I had a lovely afternoon with Mum on Saturday we had a girls shopping afternoon and I really believed she loved looking around the shops and she acutually chose a couple of skirts and tops, she was fine when walking around inside the shops but as soon as we got outside she started to panic saying she couldn't breathe or felt sick, we had frequent stops and sat outside at a cafe and had a drink (where she was again fine) soon had to move on to catch the bus and the same thing happened again. Managed to catch the bus and she really enjoyed the bus ride through the countryside she hasn't travelled on a bus for ages. We then had a lovely BBQ at my brothers home which she again enjoyed and ate well !! My brother who is Mum's main carer is going away for 2 weeks holiday in July, so we thought we should ask her what she would prefer to do either go into respite care like her sister-in-law does or would she prefer someone to come in on a regular basis to help jog her memory (Mum forgets to wash, take her medication, drink enough fluids, and quite often forgets to eat.) Well on this suggestion all hell was let loose she cried she screamed and she hollered and totally denied that she doesn't do the things, and my brother and I really bore the brunt of her cruel tongue !! I know this is not my real Mum when she is like this but it sure does hurt. We are unsure what to do next. ? any suggestions ? (Mum has not been assesed as yet by a consultant having to wait until end of August for this, but her doctor and ourselves feel that she has AD in some form which has been going on for at least 3 years and getting steadily worse). A big thanks to this web site and it's users for letting me be able to let off steam !!!! and giving me courage to face another day.