My partner went to see his father this morning. This was because his daughter (my stepdaughter) rang us to tell us she had just engaged. She wanted us to pass on the news to her Granddad, knowing that he easily gets conufused. If we told him face to face we could explain better and deal with repeated questions, any agitated requests for information. We thought this was a sesnsible paln So this morning my partner went to break the news. And yes, the news was a surprise to his Dad. Because he'd believed his grand-daughter was already married.