My mother has been in nursing care for 9 months. As one of her deputies I am aware that she has now used her available cash, so we are going ghrough the process of arranging a DPA against her house. My sister and I (both deputies) still live in the family home and have always done so. Sooner or later we will need to tell her that we've spent her money paying for her care and next we'll be using her house via a DPA. She is a very caring, sensitive, shy and loving mother and i think it will be very difficult for us to tell her what has to be done. I am aware that this may be ( or may not turn out to be) a difficult task for my sister and I.
I would like to make this task as painless as possible for all 3 of us. Can any one offer us any advice on how to do this with the utmost tact, or advise, based on experience, how this can be done. the first thing she may very well worry about is what will happen to my sister and I. When the time comes we will have plans in place which may not at the time be completed.
Any advice or experiences would be most welcome.
THX
I would like to make this task as painless as possible for all 3 of us. Can any one offer us any advice on how to do this with the utmost tact, or advise, based on experience, how this can be done. the first thing she may very well worry about is what will happen to my sister and I. When the time comes we will have plans in place which may not at the time be completed.
Any advice or experiences would be most welcome.
THX