Good morning from a newbie.
I'm at the end of my tether. I care for my mother (in her 80s) and she has lived with my other half and me since my father died two years ago. She's had Alzheimer's for some time but the decline was very slow. However since a major infection before Christmas the deterioration has been rapid. She's now at that horrible stage where her cognitive function has almost gone but not quite - so she still knows that her mind is going and is terrified. I love her and I want to do the very best I can for her, but right now she's driving me up the wall and I'm not coping.
As the title of the post says, it's the endless questions. She has a catheter and she's obsessed with bladder and bowels, and constantly asks 'do I need to go to the toilet?' 'How do I go to the toilet?' 'What do I do if I want to go to the toilet?' and many other variations on the theme. It's not an exaggeration to say we get this around 60 - 70 times a day. Every day.
Then there's the 'I don't know where I am', 'what am I doing?' 'I'm totally lost' etc - that's probably 30 - 35 times a day. Every day.
And there are the questions which are repeated just as often but which change every few days - what did the optician say, when's my sister coming over to visit?
I know it's difficult for her, but I'm at breaking point. I've tried giving short answers, I've tried explaining the answer every time she asks in the hope that it might sink in. But no - I've answered the toilet question nine times while I've been typing this.
Any help, ideas, support, tissues to cry into, gin......all gratefully received.
I'm at the end of my tether. I care for my mother (in her 80s) and she has lived with my other half and me since my father died two years ago. She's had Alzheimer's for some time but the decline was very slow. However since a major infection before Christmas the deterioration has been rapid. She's now at that horrible stage where her cognitive function has almost gone but not quite - so she still knows that her mind is going and is terrified. I love her and I want to do the very best I can for her, but right now she's driving me up the wall and I'm not coping.
As the title of the post says, it's the endless questions. She has a catheter and she's obsessed with bladder and bowels, and constantly asks 'do I need to go to the toilet?' 'How do I go to the toilet?' 'What do I do if I want to go to the toilet?' and many other variations on the theme. It's not an exaggeration to say we get this around 60 - 70 times a day. Every day.
Then there's the 'I don't know where I am', 'what am I doing?' 'I'm totally lost' etc - that's probably 30 - 35 times a day. Every day.
And there are the questions which are repeated just as often but which change every few days - what did the optician say, when's my sister coming over to visit?
I know it's difficult for her, but I'm at breaking point. I've tried giving short answers, I've tried explaining the answer every time she asks in the hope that it might sink in. But no - I've answered the toilet question nine times while I've been typing this.
Any help, ideas, support, tissues to cry into, gin......all gratefully received.