My mum went into an EMI residential home a month ago.It was very hard.The home said our visits were unsettling her and advised us to stay away for 2 weeks.we said we couldn't do this as we has visited every day and stayed the night on a rota basis.However I did think our daily visits were usetting her so stayed away 3 days.She did seem a little better after that but had presumed we were dead.We just kept telling mum that she was safe here and I kept saying she would like it but it would take time it was like starting at school.This week she seems to be calmer and more settled.Don't expect her to settle in straight away it takes time.We think we have made the right decision.although mum is a tearful at times she was like that before and the staff seem to be very caring.