Hi everyone. I am the main carer for my Mum who has Alzheimers and vascular dementia. We have been ticking along for almost 2 years now with things very stable, just minor deterioration. Mum lives alone just up the road from us and we decided about a week ago that the time had come where we should modify her bungalow so we could move in to care for her constantly in the next couple of months while she still had some quality of life.
Thursday morning i discovered that a crisis had occured during the night - a possible TIA? I set about trying to clean Mum up while my husband phoned 999. She was very jumbled in speech, didn't seem to understand any of our questions or requests and was extremely confused.
We were taken to hospital and spent about 6 hours in a cubicle in A&E where a few tests were done, a CT scan then a chest x-ray (wow how tricky is it to try to keep a PWD entertained for that long in a confined space?!!) Then she was finally admitted to a ward and given a diagnosis of a possible stroke.
The care we are witnessing seems quite disorganised and we have to keep repeating to everyone how drastic the change in Mum is - from being incontinent, being unable to communicate, or carry out simple tasks - only a week ago she got on a bus to the local town, went to M&S and bought 2 jumpers then came home again unaccompanied!
Sadly the "stroke" has also resulted in agitation and apparently she got physical with nurses trying to help with personal care this morning which is very new.
I suppose her next move sadly will be to a care home now- there is no way we could take on this level of care (i have 2 boys aged 11 & 13 and it would be unfair on them).
We now await an MRI scan when she is calm enough to have one. And i suppose we need to look at care homes - where to start though? What will her needs be? And what kind of care will be required? ? ? ?
Thursday morning i discovered that a crisis had occured during the night - a possible TIA? I set about trying to clean Mum up while my husband phoned 999. She was very jumbled in speech, didn't seem to understand any of our questions or requests and was extremely confused.
We were taken to hospital and spent about 6 hours in a cubicle in A&E where a few tests were done, a CT scan then a chest x-ray (wow how tricky is it to try to keep a PWD entertained for that long in a confined space?!!) Then she was finally admitted to a ward and given a diagnosis of a possible stroke.
The care we are witnessing seems quite disorganised and we have to keep repeating to everyone how drastic the change in Mum is - from being incontinent, being unable to communicate, or carry out simple tasks - only a week ago she got on a bus to the local town, went to M&S and bought 2 jumpers then came home again unaccompanied!
Sadly the "stroke" has also resulted in agitation and apparently she got physical with nurses trying to help with personal care this morning which is very new.
I suppose her next move sadly will be to a care home now- there is no way we could take on this level of care (i have 2 boys aged 11 & 13 and it would be unfair on them).
We now await an MRI scan when she is calm enough to have one. And i suppose we need to look at care homes - where to start though? What will her needs be? And what kind of care will be required? ? ? ?