Since mum started to have significant memory problems we have played the blame game. I'm sure I'm not the only one in this situation, but maybe others cope better than me? 12 months ago mum's memory was wobbly. Today I don't think there is a word to describe how poor her memory had become. Recent events or activities cannot be remembered minutes after they happened and blanks are sometimes filled in with a very vivid imagination. Older events are also increasingly hazy too. Mum has blamed me for her problems saying if I hadn't gone out to work full time leaving her at home during the day her memory would be fine. I know its not that simple, but its not a nice thing to hear. Mum moves things about constantly and instantly forgets where she has put them, so its my fault, eg today she wanted to swap purses, which she did, but then she instantly couldn't find her notes, so what had I done with them? Its so sad, but also so frustrating, its hard not to take it personally. I've read the thread on compassionate communication, but I struggle when I'm blamed for everything under the sun. How do others cope with bring constantly at fault, I just find it so demoralizing.