The best Christmas Ever

Margaret W

Registered User
Apr 28, 2007
3,725
North Derbyshire
Folks, mum came to us for Christmas lunch, I agonised over it for weeks, she only went into the Care Home in August and was confused if I took her out. I was concerned that if I took her to our home for Christmas Lunch she would get confused and not want to go back or not know where she was going back to.

Well it has all worked a dream. I told her the day before that she would be coming to us, and that her grand-daughters would pick her up at 12 noon. I told the Care Home Staff as well. Hmm. Daughters arrived to find her in her nightie and dressing gown declaring it was time for bed. I am a bit cross that the Care Home Staff didn't get her ready to be going out, but my daughters did that, and brought her to us.

We had a lovely afternoon. Mum had a sherry (her favourite tipple) on arrival, and lunch was served soon after, and she ate well. We then had a cup of tea, which she enjoyed, and several times she said "isn't it nice to be with my family at Christmas" and I was so pleased that I had included her. That said, she was asleep for half the time, but who cares?

She then got worked up about what time she should get back to the Home, but to me I was reassured that she realised she was going back at all cos it had been a big concern of mine that she might not want to go back at all.

But it all worked well, the girls took her back, she told everyone about the lovely presents she had had, and it all went well.

So I am now thinking it is "safe" to invite her to our house now and again (we are only 7 miles away) for a cup of tea and a bun, which I have been scared to do before. She has been in the Care home for 4 months, and I wanted to get her used to it before I brought her to familiar places, but I now think I can do that. All in all, a very successful day, I am so pleased.

Any of you who are nervous about taking your relatives out of their usual environment, I hope this story will help.

Love to everyone who reads this. Hope you have enjoyed Christmas Day as I have.

Margaret
 

CraigC

Registered User
Mar 21, 2003
6,630
London
Hi Margaret,

What a lovely inspiring message to read on Christmas day. I'm so glad it worked for you all and that you had great day. It is never easy but it is encouraging to read experiences like yours today.

I'm really looking forward to seeing dad tomorrow and hope to at least get him out for a walk if the weather is kind.

thanks for posting and so glad it worked well.
Merry Christmas
Craig
 

Grannie G

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Apr 3, 2006
70,725
Kent
Well done Margaret.

I know from your previous posts how much you`ve agonized about bringing your mother home for Christmas. Well you did it and it worked. What better news could you have had.

Love xx
 

lizzie2596

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Jul 3, 2007
91
Hi Margaret

I'm so pleased that things worked out so well for you. I have had the same dilemma about having my Mum over for part of today. In the end I chickened out as I was on my own and driving, cooking and caring by myself was just too scary a prospect. I went and had lunch with Mum at the Care home instead. She was on good form and we rang my brothers whilst I was there.

I have slight regrets about taking the easy way out today but I can't complain about the lovely time that I spent with Mum earlier. My eldest brother, his wife and daughter are coming over for a few days at New Year and I am hoping to bring Mum over then when there are more people in the house. We'll see.

Merry Christmas - what's left of it.

Liz x
 

Linda Mc

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Jul 3, 2005
1,881
Nr Mold
How wonderful Margaret, a lovely lovely day to remember. Thank you for sharing it with us.

Love Linda x
 

Margaret W

Registered User
Apr 28, 2007
3,725
North Derbyshire
Dear Lizzie,

You certainly did the right thing in your circumstances. For the first "go" I couldn't have done it without my husband helping out to make sure the dinner wasn't delayed, and my two adult daughters doing the collecting, it would all have been too scary without that support.

Maybe, as you say, New Year, you can give it a whirl. I just felt that I needed to be mega organised (which I am never), for the sake of mum, and I managed it by a whisper. So, Lizzie, try the same for New Year. If you want my timetable (down to five mibutes) to prepare dinner for 1 p.m., let me know. And anyone else who might like it. Perhaps you are all better at cooking Christmas dinners than me, but this worked for me. Anyone is welcome to it. Oh, Roast potatoes etc. are all Auntie Bessies, not mine!

Love to everyone

Margaret
 

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