Could those people whose loved ones are incontinent please tell me what symptoms they noticed as it started?? I think Mum is developing incontinence, altho' so far she's only had one "accident". She is suffering from "frequency" - constantly wanting to urinate and then when she goes, only does a little bit. She's been tested for urinary tract infections and is clear of these. So I'm thinking it is the start of incontinence, but I don't know. The care home are not concerned as there is no infection, but I'm also wondering if there are any drugs available to reduce the urge to "go" all the time. I plan to see the doctor about this, but would like to be well armed with information before I go! Otherwise I think he'll just dismiss it. Any help anyone can give will be VERY gratefully received. Thanks!