1. Harrys daughter

    Harrys daughter Registered User

    Jul 12, 2016
    385
    WORRIER123 jorgieporgie lavander45 rosy18 MollyD Hillybilly and anyone else im sorry if iv missed you i would like to thankyou all for your wonderful suport on tp my dad lost his battle on sat 26th Nov at 3.45am as you all know we had seen him through a dreadful week and after 3 nights of no sleep I was able to hold and kiss my dad along with our family while he slipped away from us.
    This was 4 days ago and I have to say I don't feel at all like I imagined I would. ....I want him back I don't feel releaf I know it's crazy as he was in pain and terrable discomfort but I just don't want him gone. Ppl mean well but I want to scream when thay come out with well he was a good age grrrrrrr I need him back he was my best friend x
     
  2. HillyBilly

    HillyBilly Registered User

    Dec 21, 2015
    1,948
    Ireland
    Oh Harrys Daughter - I'm crying with you. You've been so brave and strong and caring all this time. Whatever you're feeling is natural, for you. Others can feel how they want. We all grieve in different ways.
    Huge hug xxx
     
  3. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,713
    Yorkshire
    hello Harry's daughter
    sorry to read your news - my condolences to you and your family

    of course you want him back, he is your dad and always will be - he will stay with you as you are quite literally made from him and all the years you had together - and he will be in your memory; the dad of old, who took such good care of you that you were able to take such good care of him

    HillyBilly's right - be gentle with yourself and grieve in your own way

    very best wishes
     
  4. Lavender45

    Lavender45 Registered User

    Jun 7, 2015
    1,598
    Liverpool
    Oh Harrys Daughter I'm so very sorry. I'm glad you were able to be with your dad at the end and whilst I cannot guess exactly how you are feeling I'm still glad your dad has escaped from this dreadful disease and has found his well deserved peace.

    Try to take care of yourself through the days ahead. I'm hugging you and holding your hand virtually and I'm always around if you need a listening ear. Xxx
     
  5. SadScot

    SadScot Registered User

    Jun 28, 2016
    23
    Harry's daughter I am so very sorry to hear about your dad. My dad died just over 2 weeks ago and I miss him terribly. I understand what you mean - I wish people, no matter how well meaning, would be careful what they say to me as it upsets me more... I wish you strength in the days and months ahead x
     
  6. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,197
    Female
    Dundee
    Sending my condolences.
     
  7. MollyD

    MollyD Registered User

    Mar 27, 2016
    1,696
    Ireland
    Harrys daughter, I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

    You and your dad have been through a long, hard time together. I'm so pleased you were with still giving him comfort in his last moments. I do hope that you eventually find comfort in that too.

    Grieve however you need to. He was your dad.

    Sending a huge hug. X
     
  8. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    I am so sorry for your loss, I wish you strength and courage for the days ahead.
     
  9. Risa

    Risa Registered User

    Apr 13, 2015
    483
    Essex
    So sorry for your loss {{{hugs}}}
     
  10. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,022
    Merseyside
    I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.
     
  11. Rodelinda

    Rodelinda Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    172
    Suffolk
    Very sorry for your loss - he is your dad and you've been through a lot together. Scream, shout, cry, whatever - just grieve and don't worry what others say. Sue
     
  12. Toddleo

    Toddleo Registered User

    Oct 7, 2015
    412
    Sending condolences Harrysdaughter, be strong.
     
  13. Marnie63

    Marnie63 Registered User

    Dec 26, 2015
    1,576
    Hampshire
    So sorry to hear of your loss Harry's Daughter.
     
  14. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    So sorry for your loss, Harry's daughter. When someone we love dies, even when we have seen them through this awful disease, we may feel some relief for them - that their suffering is over, that they are finally at peace. But you are right, it's not a relief for us. People don't think through what they are saying. We grieve so much when they are suffering - but it's not the same grief we feel when they die, and we have to deal with their loss. Thinking of you in the coming days. xx
     
  15. Mal2

    Mal2 Registered User

    Oct 14, 2014
    2,967
    Enfield
    My condolences on your loss. Wishing you strength over the coming weeks, at this very sad time.
     
  16. jknight

    jknight Registered User

    Oct 23, 2015
    786
    Hampshire
    So sorry for your loss x
     
  17. sunray

    sunray Registered User

    Sep 21, 2008
    1,420
    Female
    East Coast of Australia
    We all grieve n our own way, we all feel what we feel. Of course others will try to understand but they don't know exactly what you feel. My condolences too. I lost my Dad 15 years ago and sometimes it still hurts.
     
  18. Harrys daughter

    Harrys daughter Registered User

    Jul 12, 2016
    385
    So 30mins time and we meet the undertaker the last big event we can give our dad :(
     
  19. MollyD

    MollyD Registered User

    Mar 27, 2016
    1,696
    Ireland
    :(

    Thinking of you. X
     
  20. Harrys daughter

    Harrys daughter Registered User

    Jul 12, 2016
    385
    Thankyou everyone for your very kind words x
     

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