Just wondering what the experience is out there about getting into hospital for visiting. My mum has no formal dementia diagnosis currently. She contracted Covid in mid December and was hospitalised for the first time. I was allowed to visit as she was on the end of life pathway for a while, but once she pulled through I was told I could no longer visit (they accepted she had dementia and had asked me to fill in a "This is Me" form). As the hospital policy said visiting was permitted for patients with dementia who had "specific needs" I asked why not. I was told that there were lots of people with dementia in the hospital and none of them could have any visitors! When she was moved from the Covid ward I was told that the visiting policy would be the same in the next ward. Mum was discharged from hospital and came home, where my sister lived in with her to support her recovery. She developed Covid related pneumonia and ended up back in hospital. She came out again and then ended up back in with blood clots on her lungs. Mum had delirium again on admission to hospital. She is still there now.
I have done a lot of research about NHS England's guidance on visiting, but the fact that the decision has been turned over now to local trusts seems to mean they can pretty much make up their own rules. I have been told over and over that visiting is "not permitted", by nurses, doctors and nurses in charge, despite the policy on the trust's website being visiting is allowed for patients with dementia with "specific needs" (whatever that means, no -one has told me). I went to the carers liaison team and they helped me to get a "one off" visit to my mum. She was at that time in a room by herself with blank walls, no tv or radio, and in a truly pitiful state, begging not to be left and telling me over and over "I think I am dying." She was moved to a ward where she could be in a 4 bed bay. I asked for a visit. The nurse in charge that day told me that it was a closed Covid ward and mum was now "settled" (she had been assessed as low mood/depressed and given anti depressants, which initially sent her hyper). I sent a written request in by email stating my case for visiting (she has dementia, I am a carer, she is very deaf and struggles with communicating with by phone, is tech illiterate, quoted Dementia UK advice about the need for support in hospitals to prevent mental deterioration). Next day I got a phone call from a ward sister inviting me in for a visit, very helpful and stating how important it was for people with dementia to have visitors! Had a lovely visit with my mum, ward sister came to see me and once again stated her support for visiting. Wondering what response I will get next time I ask. Exhausted and fed up now with the whole situation, mum is much better on the anti-depressants now the dosage seems to be right. She is expected to be discharged to community hospital soon for rehab, I wonder what the situation will be there. I'm going to get Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS) at the hospital involved if I get more hassle, I think.
How about you?
I have done a lot of research about NHS England's guidance on visiting, but the fact that the decision has been turned over now to local trusts seems to mean they can pretty much make up their own rules. I have been told over and over that visiting is "not permitted", by nurses, doctors and nurses in charge, despite the policy on the trust's website being visiting is allowed for patients with dementia with "specific needs" (whatever that means, no -one has told me). I went to the carers liaison team and they helped me to get a "one off" visit to my mum. She was at that time in a room by herself with blank walls, no tv or radio, and in a truly pitiful state, begging not to be left and telling me over and over "I think I am dying." She was moved to a ward where she could be in a 4 bed bay. I asked for a visit. The nurse in charge that day told me that it was a closed Covid ward and mum was now "settled" (she had been assessed as low mood/depressed and given anti depressants, which initially sent her hyper). I sent a written request in by email stating my case for visiting (she has dementia, I am a carer, she is very deaf and struggles with communicating with by phone, is tech illiterate, quoted Dementia UK advice about the need for support in hospitals to prevent mental deterioration). Next day I got a phone call from a ward sister inviting me in for a visit, very helpful and stating how important it was for people with dementia to have visitors! Had a lovely visit with my mum, ward sister came to see me and once again stated her support for visiting. Wondering what response I will get next time I ask. Exhausted and fed up now with the whole situation, mum is much better on the anti-depressants now the dosage seems to be right. She is expected to be discharged to community hospital soon for rehab, I wonder what the situation will be there. I'm going to get Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS) at the hospital involved if I get more hassle, I think.
How about you?