Since I last wrote mum has more or less settled into her care home but has really taken against one of the residents. My previously gentle and kind mother really does not like this lady and every time I visit, she starts on at me about her.
On Sunday, true to form she started on about this nasty woman, pointing at her and shouting. The woman in question was just sitting on a settee talking to a male resident. I just snapped and shouted at mum to be quiet. Wrong thing to say as mum stomped off into her room slamming the door. I made matters worse by following mum and we had very angry words.
I have talked to the staff in the home and they say this other lady can be very bossy and difficult. It seems mum only makes a fuss about her when she has visitors, especially me.
I feel so guilty that I actually rowed with mum - she's got dementia so how could I expect her to be reasonable? I'm looking after my frail dad as well and I just sometimes feel at the end of my tether. I haven't been back to visit mum since Saturday, I just can't face it at the moment, but again I feel guilty. I don't know what to do any more.
Do others ever feel like this?
Betty
On Sunday, true to form she started on about this nasty woman, pointing at her and shouting. The woman in question was just sitting on a settee talking to a male resident. I just snapped and shouted at mum to be quiet. Wrong thing to say as mum stomped off into her room slamming the door. I made matters worse by following mum and we had very angry words.
I have talked to the staff in the home and they say this other lady can be very bossy and difficult. It seems mum only makes a fuss about her when she has visitors, especially me.
I feel so guilty that I actually rowed with mum - she's got dementia so how could I expect her to be reasonable? I'm looking after my frail dad as well and I just sometimes feel at the end of my tether. I haven't been back to visit mum since Saturday, I just can't face it at the moment, but again I feel guilty. I don't know what to do any more.
Do others ever feel like this?
Betty