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Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Teanosugar, Feb 8, 2015.

  1. Teanosugar

    Teanosugar Registered User

    Apr 28, 2012
    Thanks for the past support I have had on here, has been a while since I posted as dad was safe in a care home and I had less reason to whinge.

    My dad passed away peacefully yesterday, he died after only being really ill with a chest infection for one day, he just went downhill rapidly although he had been in decline for months dementia wise and his body weight had been dropping although was eating extra calories. Along with the doctor I took the decision (have full power of attorney) to not treat any more as nothing was working and we moved onto end of life pathway with only comfort palliative care. His passing from that decision was less than 24 hours, most of which he was asleep due to midazolam to stop his agitation and morphine to ease his pain. I was holding his hand as he just slipped away, and two hours before I had kissed him, told him all his mates and mum were at the big free bar in the sky and he opened his eyes and said thankyou. That meant so much to me, he had asked to die for so long, he was ready to go, nature just took its course a little quicker than I expected. He had dementia for over 10 years, but only the last 3 years did he need full time care. He had a good life, we will be celebrating his 86 years as soon as I can get things sorted when everywhere opens up tomorrow. Thanks everyone and good luck on your journeys, I will most likely return when my MIL progresses but for now we are all fine.
  2. Liz57

    Liz57 Registered User

    Dec 22, 2013
    So sorry for your loss but pleased his passing was peaceful and quick.
  3. Gigglemore

    Gigglemore Registered User

    Oct 18, 2013
    British Isles
    So sorry for your loss but hope that his peaceful passing will be a comfort to you and your family.
  4. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    I'm so sorry to read your news. How lovely that you were holding his hand. Sending you my condolences.
  5. Pickles53

    Pickles53 Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    Radcliffe on Trent
    Sending my deepest sympathy and condolences to all your family. Wishing you peace and strength.
  6. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    I'm so sorry, but glad to hear your dad's passing was peaceful. Thinking of you, take care xxx
  7. MeganCat

    MeganCat Registered User

    Jan 29, 2013
    South Wales
    Sorry for your loss, glad you were able to hold his hand x
  8. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    Toronto, Canada
    So sorry to hear of your loss but you are welcome here at any time.
  9. lin1

    lin1 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2010
    East Kent
    So sorry. Please accept my Condolences .
  10. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    So sorry for your loss, lovely that you were able to hold his hand and he was able to thank you xx

  11. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    A short crisis and peaceful passing is as much as we can hope for Teanosugar. It sounds as if it was this for you and your dad.
  12. CJinUSA

    CJinUSA Registered User

    Jan 20, 2014
    eastern USA
    Thank you for sharing your lovely story with us. I'm sorry he's gone but happy he is now at peace.
  13. sinkhole

    sinkhole Registered User

    Jan 28, 2015
    Very sorry to hear your news. You did the right thing.
  14. Polly1945

    Polly1945 Registered User

    Oct 24, 2012
    Dear Teanosugar

    Thank you for letting us know about your dear Dad's peaceful onward journey. It brought a tear to my eye, but so pleased for you that you were holding his hand. How lovely that he thanked you, that is something you will always remember.


  15. Lilac Blossom

    Lilac Blossom Registered User

    Oct 6, 2014
    Sorry for your loss but what a wonderfully peaceful way to go.

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