I would like to say a big Thank You to everyone who has posted on the issue of Sundowning.
When this first happened with my husband, and for a long time afterwards, I took his `going home` phases literally. I found them hurtful and insulting and would disolve into tears every time. After all I was his family, and his home was with me, and has been for 44 years.
It has taken a long time, but I`m now beginning to be able to handle it. When he talks about his family in India, going home to his grandparents` farms, how they`ll welcome him, what he used to do there as a boy, I`m no longer upset, for I`m now able to see it for what it is.
So thanks to everyone who has also experienced it, and shared their experiences, I can now respond by agreeing with him, telling him it`s a good idea and allowing him to reminisce about his childhood.
It must be working, because he said he`ll always keep in touch with me, when he does go home.
Writing this has made me wonder how others have been helped by those who`ve shared their experiences. I`d love to know.
When this first happened with my husband, and for a long time afterwards, I took his `going home` phases literally. I found them hurtful and insulting and would disolve into tears every time. After all I was his family, and his home was with me, and has been for 44 years.
It has taken a long time, but I`m now beginning to be able to handle it. When he talks about his family in India, going home to his grandparents` farms, how they`ll welcome him, what he used to do there as a boy, I`m no longer upset, for I`m now able to see it for what it is.
So thanks to everyone who has also experienced it, and shared their experiences, I can now respond by agreeing with him, telling him it`s a good idea and allowing him to reminisce about his childhood.
It must be working, because he said he`ll always keep in touch with me, when he does go home.
Writing this has made me wonder how others have been helped by those who`ve shared their experiences. I`d love to know.