Hi all,
Just thought I'd pop in and let you know that Gran's case went before the panel with Social Services today.
I'm pleased to say that they gave us a great big "YES" to funding her in care 24/7. They've given us the go ahead to start looking at homes within their parameters of finance, and we're going to compare them to homes in our own area. If there is a difference between costs of care in homes in the Wearside area and our own Sedgefield area, there may be a problem finding the additional funds. However, mum has said that she would be more than happy to put the proceeds from the sale of Gran's house towards her care. The house is owned by my mum and her 3 siblings, but that's another issue altogether.
Of course the hard bit comes next. How to tell Gran that this is the best move for her, without causing untold grief. There is an awful lot of work needs doing to Gran's house to bring it up to standard, and mum and I think it would be best to use that as leverage with her. The living room window is currently a bow window but inside is a great big crack along the length of it, the lintel is giving up and it needs attention, otherwise it'll all come down on top of her. Her garage outside is asbestos and needs expert removal, there's some plumbing work to do etc. So we thought we might just tell her that we're taking her somewhere nice for a while, whilst the building work is done, and just attempt to fob her off from there until she forgets about it.
Any other suggestions of how to approach her with it would be gratefully received and taken in.
Meantime we just have to sigh a huge sigh of relief that there is light at the end of the tunnel at long last!! And yet mum and I were still nearly in tears at the thought of it all! You can't win, can you!? lol
Gill
xx
Just thought I'd pop in and let you know that Gran's case went before the panel with Social Services today.
I'm pleased to say that they gave us a great big "YES" to funding her in care 24/7. They've given us the go ahead to start looking at homes within their parameters of finance, and we're going to compare them to homes in our own area. If there is a difference between costs of care in homes in the Wearside area and our own Sedgefield area, there may be a problem finding the additional funds. However, mum has said that she would be more than happy to put the proceeds from the sale of Gran's house towards her care. The house is owned by my mum and her 3 siblings, but that's another issue altogether.
Of course the hard bit comes next. How to tell Gran that this is the best move for her, without causing untold grief. There is an awful lot of work needs doing to Gran's house to bring it up to standard, and mum and I think it would be best to use that as leverage with her. The living room window is currently a bow window but inside is a great big crack along the length of it, the lintel is giving up and it needs attention, otherwise it'll all come down on top of her. Her garage outside is asbestos and needs expert removal, there's some plumbing work to do etc. So we thought we might just tell her that we're taking her somewhere nice for a while, whilst the building work is done, and just attempt to fob her off from there until she forgets about it.
Any other suggestions of how to approach her with it would be gratefully received and taken in.
Meantime we just have to sigh a huge sigh of relief that there is light at the end of the tunnel at long last!! And yet mum and I were still nearly in tears at the thought of it all! You can't win, can you!? lol
Gill
xx