Terrible week

Ihtl

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Jan 19, 2016
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Just a bit of a rant really.

Life with my dad has been really frustrating recently. Violent incidents increasing, becoming harder to manage him going to the toilet (he swears and fights us when we try to take him, but 9/10 actually goes) and refusing personal care from both paid carers and ourselves. Diarrhoea this week has been terrible (I actually stepped away from writing this post for 30mins to deal with that)

And as if a literally ****ty day couldn't be any worse, my grandmother passed away today after suffering from Alzheimer's for 20+ years.
 

HillyBilly

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Oh my. I'm not surprised you felt the need for a rant.
So sorry you've lost your grandmother.
I hope you manage to get some help with your Dad, be that medication or maybe some respite for you?
x
 

la lucia

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Just a bit of a rant really.

Life with my dad has been really frustrating recently. Violent incidents increasing, becoming harder to manage him going to the toilet (he swears and fights us when we try to take him, but 9/10 actually goes) and refusing personal care from both paid carers and ourselves. Diarrhoea this week has been terrible (I actually stepped away from writing this post for 30mins to deal with that)

And as if a literally ****ty day couldn't be any worse, my grandmother passed away today after suffering from Alzheimer's for 20+ years.

Hi what an awful week for you....

Could you ask for a referral to the Community mental health team for help with your dad's behavioural issues? They tend to understand these things better than GPs.
 

Risa

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That is a horrible week {{{hugs}}} If your Dad is being more aggressive, can your GP or Memory Clinic get involved? It is hard to care for loved one at the best of times, when they become aggressive or upset, it is a nightmare :(
 

Ihtl

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Jan 19, 2016
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Thanks all for your condolences, I've been trying to get get hold of the community mental health team. x
 

Ihtl

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A doctor from the community mental health team and a care coordinator came round to visit. Dad was prescribed another medicine which will hopefully reduce his aggression. The doctor also said he would write a letter to support our application for CHC funding which I really wasn't expecting at all.

Although everyday is still a challenge, I must admit that I've started to feel some relief as my brothers and I have decided that regardless of the outcome of the application for funding, we will try to get dad into a care home sometime in the first couple of months of the new year. The search has been on to find what would probably have to be a specialist centre to deal with dad's aggression and violence.

I will also have to give the CCG a kick up the **** too. I didn't realise that we're supposed to have the full assessment within 28 of the checklist assessment!

My grandmother's funeral was beautiful. I can't quite decide if it was cruel or not that my dad cried as he left the chapel. 99% of the time he has absolutely no idea what's going on yet he was brought to tears. I'm not sure if he finally realised that his mum had passed away or if it was his sisters crying that eventually set him off.
 

Ihtl

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Jan 19, 2016
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The CCG actually called me today. We now have a date for the full assessment, in a little over two weeks. It'll be the same woman who did the checklist assessment and a social worker. The assessment will be done at home, is this normal?

I'm happy to have a date and one that's reasonably close. On the other day, I'm petrified, absolutely positively nervous.
 

Clueless2

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Calling 999 isn't wrong or an admission of defeat. If you or your pwd are in danger it is precisely what you must do, to protect both of you from harm. It can be the catalyst for necessary additional support. Good luck.
 

Ihtl

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Jan 19, 2016
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Thanks guys, we're trying to sort out a bit of respite and keeping fingers crossed for the CHC assessment.
 

Ihtl

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Jan 19, 2016
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My dad had his assessment for CHC funding today and thankfully he was approved for funding. I'm absolutely delighted.
 

Shedrech

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hi ihtl
well done for all the effort you've put in - so good that approval has been granted = one important issue you don't need to worry about
I really hope you are able to relax a little
good luck with everything
 

Ihtl

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Jan 19, 2016
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hi ihtl
well done for all the effort you've put in - so good that approval has been granted = one important issue you don't need to worry about
I really hope you are able to relax a little
good luck with everything

Thank you, it was such a relief. We can now go into the new year scouting out suitable care homes.
 

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