Terrible times

Snooze1

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Aug 17, 2023
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My husband has been in his nursing home just over 6 months and I have been not 100% happy with his care but I am close by and visit most afternoons so I can keep an eye on him . He is declining fast and is very vocal and emotional but not able to express himself now. We struggled to find a placement for him and I am now in a predicament as two weeks ago he was assaulted by an agency care worker which was stopped by a carer employed by the home.

We are in the process of review/investigation and the police are looking to charge, but I feel this may not come to fruition as everything seems to point to the agency worker being sacked from her agency but I feel it may end there.

I’d would like to move him and myself closer to my daughter but so unsure if I will be able to sell my home and request for him to be moved out of this healthcare area. His funding is CHC and im happy with his social worker and gp but not the home or its main owner.

Any thoughts on if I should get legal advice about assault charge? Any thoughts on moving my husband and my restrictions due to funding?
My husband was diagnosed around 63/64 and his decline has come fast and very hard to believe….

Sorry for ranting but I seriously need to make things change,
 

Collywobbles

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With CHC there’s probably a DoLS in place. If so, that means there will be legal restrictions around moving him. I’d ask your social worker for advice on the nuts and bolts of whether a move is even possible, before getting involved in the detail.
 

annieka 56

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Aug 8, 2022
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That's horrible, what happened, for your husband to be assaulted.
Have you raised it as a safeguarding issue with your social worker - I suppose you have.
To move not only your husband from the care home and outside his healthcare area but yourself by selling your home is a series of massive steps.
If you can still visit him where he is might be better and I would hope staff would feel disgusted that a vulnerable resident was assaulted there and would stand by you.
 

Snooze1

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Aug 17, 2023
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With CHC there’s probably a DoLS in place. If so, that means there will be legal restrictions around moving him. I’d ask your social worker for advice on the nuts and bolts of whether a move is even possible, before getting involved in the detail.
Yes you’re correct there is a DoL’s in place, my SW sort of talked about moving but it was a difficult time to find him this placement, it’s such a mess at the moment. I‘ll hopefully talk to her tomorrow and get a plan in place…thanks for your post, it helps to talk it out.
 

Snooze1

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Aug 17, 2023
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That's horrible, what happened, for your husband to be assaulted.
Have you raised it as a safeguarding issue with your social worker - I suppose you have.
To move not only your husband from the care home and outside his healthcare area but yourself by selling your home is a series of massive steps.
If you can still visit him where he is might be better and I would hope staff would feel disgusted that a vulnerable resident was assaulted there and would stand by you.
Thanks for your reply, yes safeguarding involved and I’ve been present for 1 meeting with all agencies including police…..I think the care home staff are disgusted but the home relies on a lot of agency staff, I dread a repeat of that phone call. My trust has gone.
 

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