Sorry if this has been mentioned before - I have looked on the forums. My Mum and Step-dad are safely in a wonderful nursing home. My Mum was keen to go (she's 97) and then my Step-dad agreed. Now, my mother hates the place but can't tell me why - sometimes it's the trees outside that upset her. My step-dad has settled in very well but she won't join him in a wheelchair stroll around the grounds and refuses to leave the room. When I'm there she is verbally abusive to him, calling him all the names under the sun. I try to divert the conversation but she won't "let go" and is awful to him. Is this part of her dementia? She also won't get dressed (and the nursing home say they can't force her because it would be considered abuse - she does have a shower every day) because, she says, she has no clothes. The drawers and wardrobe are full of clothes and I've shown them to her, but all she says is, "oh". I wonder if they might be better in separate rooms, but it would be much more expensive. Has anyone else heard of this abusive behaviour before?