End stage
Reading your posts makes me understand why no one wants to visit us as I'm referred to as a 'one off'. The end or final stage for my wife came about 5 years ago. A Mcmillan nurse was sent to our house, my wife was on morphine for her pain. She left her card,I sent her away saying I'd care for her myself. The hospital, her GP and the entry in her notes (I still retain) stated she was dying. In fact, she was not expected to survive the night and I told her it was OK to let go, as I held her hand. That was over four years ago!
She's had three seizures/fits and had to be rushed to A&E. After a lot of tests she was diagnosed as having epilepsy, wrong again as she hasn't had another seizure since early Feb. That was the last time we saw a doctor. A nurse visited twice, but it was a different one from last year, first for my wife's flu jab, second visit for my jab!
About three weeks ago two girls appeared at our front door. One said she was a CPN, the other a SW, what did they want? To arrange a package of care, in the event of me having an accident!
This after 4yrs and eight months caring alone, I found it so funny. I filled out the form stating, that before anyone attends to my wife, they will require instructions from me, as to how to do so. By now, I've got use to being ignored as I've not heard anything back, having returned the forms in the 1st class stamped envelope. With any luck, this end stage will go on for many years yet. So far the only down side is she's nearing 9 stone which make it harded to lift her in and out of the car, as I'm only 10stone 5lbs. Still it's better than when she was under six stone.
She may be rigid all over and unable to speak but I'm more than happy to still have her and to be a one off. Could it be that the Psychologist ( she left the NHS) who use to deal with my wife six years ago,when I've been in touch said "No one wants to know because you proved them all wrong?"
I wish you the peace of mind and contentment which I found in caregiving. Padraig