I would imagine that most care homes dealing with dementia are used to this. After all, how many of them do actually want to move to a CH? I would imagine precious few. My mother was very angry with us on the day (and for quite a while afterwards) but I don't think she was actually aggressive with the staff. I guess we could just have slipped off, but didn't feel able to do that. However with some people it may be best.Thank you so much Witzend. I assume that once you are in the CH the staff take over and any reluctance to stay on the part of my husband will be controlled by them and he will not be able to stop me from going. I imagine all sorts of scenes and his temper causing staff to say they will not take him.