Hi Tony
I think you were very lucky when you were allowed to stay at work, as my working days ended on diagnosis as it was thought that I was unable to do my job, but it was also considered too dangerous to have me as an engineer, and after that I got no support what so ever from the University.
I have heard of others being dropped by the masons, but I also know others who are still active members so I suppose it depends where you live, as to how you are treated" just like the NHS", WRONG BUT IT HAPPENS.
However not telling anyone including the services, could lead to major problems as you could be classed as un-insurable and therefore liable for any actions you take. But we are all different and go through this with little or no advise from anyone outside, who really knows what the illness is like to live with as they do not have that personal experience, so we have to make our own judgements as we go along.
The DVLA has allowed me my licence back on a 12 monthly basis, which I can cope with, as I understand that things will change in the future, but I only drive if I feel totally up to it.
Unlike a person I know who needs someone with him at all times to tell him which way to turn. I do feel that this is going too far, but thats only my opinion and I would not attempt to force my opinion on anyone else.
We all do our best, to live with something we did not ask for and it is not self inflicted, but thats life.
Ken