I am new to this forum so please bear with me. My Mum, 91, and is in late stages of dementia having been in a local care home for nearly 8 years now. Her daughter in law (my sister in law) sadly passed away yesterday at the age of 68.(lung cancer). I am devastated as obviously is my brother.
Mum is now totally unresponsive, unable to communicate, and has to be 'fed and watered' by the care home staff. She has lost the use of her legs, and is essentially now unable to do anything by herself.
Do I tell her about this close family bereavement? She doesn't give any indication at all that she comprehends anything that is said to her, and shows no expression of any understanding. Because of this, I feel inclined not to say anything as I don't think she will understand. I also wouldn't want to cause her any grief or distress that she is unable to communicate.
But somehow it seems wrong not telling her. She and my sister in law were very close.
Any thoughts please would be most welcome.
Mum is now totally unresponsive, unable to communicate, and has to be 'fed and watered' by the care home staff. She has lost the use of her legs, and is essentially now unable to do anything by herself.
Do I tell her about this close family bereavement? She doesn't give any indication at all that she comprehends anything that is said to her, and shows no expression of any understanding. Because of this, I feel inclined not to say anything as I don't think she will understand. I also wouldn't want to cause her any grief or distress that she is unable to communicate.
But somehow it seems wrong not telling her. She and my sister in law were very close.
Any thoughts please would be most welcome.