Hi I am really interested to hear how forum members have successfully moved their loved ones into a home when they always say "I don't want to go in a home," "you are trying/going to put me in a home" and their whole position is deeply paranoid and totally against going in a home. I don't know that discussing the topic prior to the move would do any good whatever - I know the net result would be trauma for the person with dementia. I know the ideal method is to have input from the person who is going to be living in the home, to give them choice, and to have some little visits to the home that gradually expand to a trial. I think if we sat down and talked to my relative in advance of a move their behaviour would get very challenging and we wouldn't even get them in a vehicle to go to the home when the appointed day came. The relative has been brilliantly looked after at home 1:1 for the last 15 months and is where she prefers to be. The person is deeply suspicious and I know that moving her will make her potentially impossible for a while, and more difficult - but we don't have a choice going forward.... Thanks for the help.