Hi All
I have had a hard day. Mum and Dad have been up and down the path every 10 mins, since 1.00 pm to-day.
I took them for a run out in the car then dropped them at their own house, next door. It worked for approx 1 hour, then they were back again.
It is Mum, she has to have company and Dad just does as Mum tells him.
Dad was wearing Mum's jacket (as he often does) I think Mum tells him "put that on" but he had taken all of the white buttons off and they were in the pocket.
After giving them dinner, meds etc, I took them next door, where they live, to try to bed them down, but with the light nights things are becoming difficult.
It is bin night and my husband took the rubbish out, MAJOR TRAUMA. Mum freaked, said they had nothing left in the house and we were stealing it. The rubbish I tried explaining it in the venacular "the midden men are coming" It didn't work!
After getting around that, I noticed teabags in the fruit bowl. When I put them back in the tea cannister, Mum had another hissie fit, "She had just MADE DINNER Grabbed my arm and said, "You b----- listen to me, I --
I am sorry to say I lost it. I told her "I am not listening to you, I am trying to do my best and I am I going home. Goodnight, I will see you tomorrow" I walked out the door.
Now I am feeling such a failure and guitly, I know she is confused and she is still trying to "manage"
A lot of things recently have made me wonder if I am doing the right thing for both Mum and Dad. Would they be better of in 24 /7 care.
I can't give them the constant attention, company, that Mum appears to need.
Or am I looking for excuses??
Alfjess
I have had a hard day. Mum and Dad have been up and down the path every 10 mins, since 1.00 pm to-day.
I took them for a run out in the car then dropped them at their own house, next door. It worked for approx 1 hour, then they were back again.
It is Mum, she has to have company and Dad just does as Mum tells him.
Dad was wearing Mum's jacket (as he often does) I think Mum tells him "put that on" but he had taken all of the white buttons off and they were in the pocket.
After giving them dinner, meds etc, I took them next door, where they live, to try to bed them down, but with the light nights things are becoming difficult.
It is bin night and my husband took the rubbish out, MAJOR TRAUMA. Mum freaked, said they had nothing left in the house and we were stealing it. The rubbish I tried explaining it in the venacular "the midden men are coming" It didn't work!
After getting around that, I noticed teabags in the fruit bowl. When I put them back in the tea cannister, Mum had another hissie fit, "She had just MADE DINNER Grabbed my arm and said, "You b----- listen to me, I --
I am sorry to say I lost it. I told her "I am not listening to you, I am trying to do my best and I am I going home. Goodnight, I will see you tomorrow" I walked out the door.
Now I am feeling such a failure and guitly, I know she is confused and she is still trying to "manage"
A lot of things recently have made me wonder if I am doing the right thing for both Mum and Dad. Would they be better of in 24 /7 care.
I can't give them the constant attention, company, that Mum appears to need.
Or am I looking for excuses??
Alfjess