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Talk about someone else's glasses!

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by GrannyT, Feb 26, 2008.

  1. GrannyT

    GrannyT Registered User

    Nov 27, 2007
    3
    London
    Both my stepmother and my father were diagnosed with 'memory problems' 6 years ago. My stepmother passed away 18 months ago. Dad has vascular dementia, and is living in sheltered accommodation 'independently'.

    I got some new glasses a couple of years ago - they cost £200. Shortly after I got them, they completely disappeared, and I had to go back to my old ones while I searched for the new ones. After about 6 months of searching, I gave up and went and ordered another pair. A couple of months after that, I was at the Chinese restaurant with my parents. When we were handed the menu, my stepmother said 'I don't know what's wrong with these glasses - they're completely useless!'

    I said "Really? Let me try them!" Of course they were my old disappeared glasses, all bent up, but I could see perfectly through them!

    I got my Dad a multi-coloured 'thread' to string his glasses round his neck. If they get lost they show up, but they do tend to collect food at meal times on the lenses!

    Dad has just started to suffer delusions. Today he thinks that he is going to be made King, and he doesn't want the responsibility.
     
  2. BeverleyY

    BeverleyY Registered User

    Jan 29, 2008
    716
    Ashford, Kent
    Oh, we shouldn't laugh.. but your post did really make me smile. Firstly the glasses, and then being made King.

    Thanks for making me grin. It's not often that we get the chance is it really.

    It makes me laugh that my Dad thinks I'm crazy when I tell him he has lived here 5 years with us. He thinks it is 2 or 3 weeks. He tells me that it is 5 years in my own mind :rolleyes:

    He makes me giggle when he says that.

    Beverley x
     
  3. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,677
    Kent
    I`m often searching for my glasses, I leave then in another room or they`re still in my bag, and my husband always offers a loan of his.

    We both had pairs with similar frames at one time, and he was always putting mine on by mistake. Sad to say he never realized, just took them off and said he could see better without them.

    Beverley,
    It does help to hear you say that. We have also lived here for 5 years and it`s a daily surprise to my husband.
     
  4. burfordthecat

    burfordthecat Registered User

    Jan 9, 2008
    1,707
    Female
    Leicestershire
    Oh Beverley

    I can so agree with your comment. My dad has been fighting with really bad leg ulcers since September 07 and has been needing lots of antibiotics(nightmare for me as I have to ring him everytime he needs to take a tablet:eek:). He stated that "I have had this "bad leg" for a couple of weeks now:eek: and it should be better within a few days!" and that I am making such a big deal out of something so minor.

    Is this something which normally happens, that passage of time speeds up?

    Burfordthecat
     
  5. elaineo2

    elaineo2 Registered User

    Jul 6, 2007
    945
    leigh lancashire
    How many times in a day do i loose my glasses?and thats in the one place for 8 hours.must admit that i've never left um in a restaurant!love elainex
     
  6. burfordthecat

    burfordthecat Registered User

    Jan 9, 2008
    1,707
    Female
    Leicestershire
    Hi everyone

    Please tell me that I am am not the only one who has turned the house upside down to find my elusive glasses only to realise that they are already perched on my nose:eek:

    Burfordthecat
     
  7. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,677
    Kent
    Don`t know about that Burford, but having worn glasses permanently from the age of 7, until I had a prescription implant at aged 60, I still put my hand to my nose to take non-existent glasses off to wash my face. :rolleyes:
     
  8. burfordthecat

    burfordthecat Registered User

    Jan 9, 2008
    1,707
    Female
    Leicestershire
    Hi Sylvia

    Guess the saying of "old habits die hard" may fit:) An implant, that sounds painfull:(

    Burford
     
  9. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,677
    Kent
    No it wasn`t painful. It was cataract surgery and my clouded lens was replaced with a prescription implant.
     
  10. jillikins

    jillikins Registered User

    Feb 25, 2008
    11
    He he,
    Brilliant, my mums famous for losing her glassas even though she`s been wearing them around her neck for 10 years!

    The best was when we all went on hols for xmas,Norfolk coast,a few years ago,mum,dad,kids,grandkids,and great-grandkids.Mum lost her slippers several times a day for the whole holiday, each grand or great-grandchild took turns in finding them.

    What a fantastic holiday we had!

    Thank you for bringing that memory back!
    It even snowed on the beach!
     

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