Being Taken Advantage Of
I am sure my mother is in early stages of Alz or Dementia, but no diagnosis has been made as she is not admitting a problem. As none of the family live near we cannot monitor the situation regularly enough. We as a family have noticed strange things to do with memory. She will insist that something that happened only two years ago never did. Latest is that she can't even remember who she is talking about and when corrected still continues to say the wrong family members name. None of this is too serious at this stage.
However, there is a family member who has more to do with her than anyone else, and even admitted over a year ago that he thought there was a problem, which he is now denying. Since this he has attempted and succeed to alienate her from most other family members at the same time making her think he is great. He has in the past had financial help from her and she has always made excuses as to why he needs the help and believes everything he tells her, even though the rest of us question what he says she always defends him. She confides in him and no one else especially on matters concerning her finances. We are all extremely worried as she is now talking of selling her house and therefore increasing her disposable assets. We think this family member is taking advantage of her mental problems and influencing her into making decisions which in the long run would benefit him. He is known for manipulating and devious behaviour.
We are at a loss to know what to do. My mother will not have a word said against him and falls out with anyone who tries to advise her or make her see what ulterior motives there are concerning him. Several family members have tried and the result is for her to fall out with them and exclude them. We do realise that legally this could be seen as fraud on an elderly sick person, but if the person insists that this is not going on and can not see what his happening what can we do? Has anyone else experience of this and can they advise us if there is anything we can do.
I am sure my mother is in early stages of Alz or Dementia, but no diagnosis has been made as she is not admitting a problem. As none of the family live near we cannot monitor the situation regularly enough. We as a family have noticed strange things to do with memory. She will insist that something that happened only two years ago never did. Latest is that she can't even remember who she is talking about and when corrected still continues to say the wrong family members name. None of this is too serious at this stage.
However, there is a family member who has more to do with her than anyone else, and even admitted over a year ago that he thought there was a problem, which he is now denying. Since this he has attempted and succeed to alienate her from most other family members at the same time making her think he is great. He has in the past had financial help from her and she has always made excuses as to why he needs the help and believes everything he tells her, even though the rest of us question what he says she always defends him. She confides in him and no one else especially on matters concerning her finances. We are all extremely worried as she is now talking of selling her house and therefore increasing her disposable assets. We think this family member is taking advantage of her mental problems and influencing her into making decisions which in the long run would benefit him. He is known for manipulating and devious behaviour.
We are at a loss to know what to do. My mother will not have a word said against him and falls out with anyone who tries to advise her or make her see what ulterior motives there are concerning him. Several family members have tried and the result is for her to fall out with them and exclude them. We do realise that legally this could be seen as fraud on an elderly sick person, but if the person insists that this is not going on and can not see what his happening what can we do? Has anyone else experience of this and can they advise us if there is anything we can do.