Dad could not cope with Mum yesterday, ‘I want her in a home’ was the plea
‘She needs to go - get on the phone and sort it’ ‘ I can’t deal with her, she needs to go ! ‘
So dutifully rang the social worker she had been assigned for a Daycare and they said someone would call in the morning. Mum was in a right state, so packed her up packed an overnight back and brought her home stayed the night and was settled and calmer. She did not want to be at Dad’s and lovrd being at mine saying it was like a 5 ⭐️ Hotel and had slept better than she could remember ( though can’t remember much) she does want to live with Dad and wants a place of her home ( not a possibility as can’t do a lot for herself) Dad had a good nights sleep apparently and went this morning to an hospital appointment before coming around to my house
Social Worker arrived at 2 .00 pm and discussed the situation and recommended respite care, Dad agreed as well as Mum and the Social Worker said she could get Mum in tonight or lastest tomorrow , the plan was sorted
The social Worker rang to say yes she could go in tomorrow and I rang Dad to confirm details
The reply beggars belief - ‘ You have upset your Mum, You are rushing things too much, I am not having her in a home and upset like this and ring back and cancel or put in a abayance this respite care’ and promptly put down the phone on me !
I am still in shock ! I am now keeping myself to myself, I will be polite to Dad as Mum will suffer if not and helpful to Mum but just going to let Dad sort it out as I can’t do much more
I didn’t want her in respite care in the first place as she is manageable with me but tried to be a good daughter but it seems I am the bad guy now !
‘She needs to go - get on the phone and sort it’ ‘ I can’t deal with her, she needs to go ! ‘
So dutifully rang the social worker she had been assigned for a Daycare and they said someone would call in the morning. Mum was in a right state, so packed her up packed an overnight back and brought her home stayed the night and was settled and calmer. She did not want to be at Dad’s and lovrd being at mine saying it was like a 5 ⭐️ Hotel and had slept better than she could remember ( though can’t remember much) she does want to live with Dad and wants a place of her home ( not a possibility as can’t do a lot for herself) Dad had a good nights sleep apparently and went this morning to an hospital appointment before coming around to my house
Social Worker arrived at 2 .00 pm and discussed the situation and recommended respite care, Dad agreed as well as Mum and the Social Worker said she could get Mum in tonight or lastest tomorrow , the plan was sorted
The social Worker rang to say yes she could go in tomorrow and I rang Dad to confirm details
The reply beggars belief - ‘ You have upset your Mum, You are rushing things too much, I am not having her in a home and upset like this and ring back and cancel or put in a abayance this respite care’ and promptly put down the phone on me !
I am still in shock ! I am now keeping myself to myself, I will be polite to Dad as Mum will suffer if not and helpful to Mum but just going to let Dad sort it out as I can’t do much more
I didn’t want her in respite care in the first place as she is manageable with me but tried to be a good daughter but it seems I am the bad guy now !