OH and I were both married before and we each have two children. He has sons who both live thousands of miles away from us in other countries. I have never met son no.1 and OH has not actually seen him for many many years. Son no.1 had an appalling reputation and couldn't get along with anyone. If his uncle saw him coming down the path, he would pretend to be out so he didn't have to deal with him. If the two sons spent any time together, there would be huge rows always over money. Son no.1 is very secretive about how he gets his money. OH refused to invite him to our wedding because he disliked him so much. Son no.2 took great exception to his father remarrying so I wasn't popular right from the start. I had some issues with him regarding his attitude to his father and things got pretty nasty when he expressed some crazy ideas about our wills. I have not seen him for over ten years and he makes little effort to communicate with his father. We eventually went to live in the Carribean for a number of years before coming to Australia and during those years there has been minimal contact between OH and his sons. In the last few months, Son no.1 has started phoning his dad frequently and has been constantly urging him to bring me over for an extended holiday. He is aware that OH has AD but it seems to me that he has little understanding of the illness. He is also aware that OH has other health problems but appears to be ignorant of what long haul flights and an extended absence from home would mean. To finally get to the point, Son no.1 phoned a couple of days ago at Christmas wanting to know what was in our wills because Son no.2 had told him that his father had cut them out of his will. I could hear OH getting very agitated so listened in and I could hear him explaining to Son no.1 the contents of our wills. Usually I can ignore OH's ramblings and behaviour and don't let things get to me but this was really too much. I was appalled by Son no.1's behaviour and was really angry about having my will discussed with a person I had never even met. I couldn't contain my anger and made my feelings known to OH which was not such a good idea as he was already agitated. So downhill we went from there and I was accused of stealing from OH and a heap of other things that you will all be familiar with. None of those accusations bothered me because I knew that it was the AD talking but the thing that was really troubling was the return of the paranoia that had been absent since he started on the patches. He recently had an appointment with the geriatrician who told him that he was doing really well so he has now convinced himself that he is actually getting better! It must be awful to have 'invisibles' who live within easy travelling distance from you but when the money grubbing creep is a stranger who lives thousands of miles away it really takes the cake. I am prepared to step back and not do anything yet as I can accept that they are his sons notwithstanding their despicable behaviour. OH says he would love to travel to see his siblings but he doesn't even want to see his sons which gives me a couple more options in the future. If Son no. 1 is foolish enough to indulge in such rude behaviour again, he will get an earful from me. Their concern is only about what money there might be coming their way when their father dies without any concern for his current health and welfare. Sorry for the lengthy rant but it is so nice to get it off my chest.