Have been following Dave k' thread with interest but thought it wasn't the place to raise this.
Almost 4 years ago husband changed into someone I didn't know almost over night. We had a bad year when I tried to convince him to see go and I spoke in vain to go who was not prepared to do anything unless he came to the surgery.Eventually I got him there on another pretext and surprise surprise she thought his memory and general behaviour were not what they were.
Referral to cpn and yes there was a problem. Did he want a brain scan- most emphatically. Not. Any other tests No.
So almost four years on we have no idea what kind of dementia he has and I am glad I didn't push him- he knows sometimes that all is not well but if he is happy not knowing then I am happy to spare him the process of diagnosis. Since we are self funding I learned very quickly that as were not in the least bothered about him so we have private carers and manage alone.
As to whether his family believe me or not I really do not care. I will not try to force him to face something he can't.
That is my experience but I realise this is not the way others see it. So what do you think, I would really like to know whether we are just odd in thinking that to knowing he has dementia is more important than the label or knowing what kind.
Almost 4 years ago husband changed into someone I didn't know almost over night. We had a bad year when I tried to convince him to see go and I spoke in vain to go who was not prepared to do anything unless he came to the surgery.Eventually I got him there on another pretext and surprise surprise she thought his memory and general behaviour were not what they were.
Referral to cpn and yes there was a problem. Did he want a brain scan- most emphatically. Not. Any other tests No.
So almost four years on we have no idea what kind of dementia he has and I am glad I didn't push him- he knows sometimes that all is not well but if he is happy not knowing then I am happy to spare him the process of diagnosis. Since we are self funding I learned very quickly that as were not in the least bothered about him so we have private carers and manage alone.
As to whether his family believe me or not I really do not care. I will not try to force him to face something he can't.
That is my experience but I realise this is not the way others see it. So what do you think, I would really like to know whether we are just odd in thinking that to knowing he has dementia is more important than the label or knowing what kind.