Hi I'm new to talking point and first of all I just want to say a huge thank you to everyone on here who posts on here, it makes me feel part of a group and not so much on my own battling this cruel, evil, hideous disease.
I am the main carer for my MIL who is 81 and has been diagnosed with mixed dementia, vascular and alzheimer's just over a month ago.
We had to really push for all the appointments as her GP is just so awful!! It took him a whole month to write a letter recently and when the surgery told me that 4 GP's had recently left, I turned round to them and said it sounds like you are in crises!!
My MIL is a very independent woman who has if I am being completely honest never given much help over the years either emotionally or financially, in fact from an emotional point of view I would almost describe her as cold. I can only assume that she was never shown a lot of love as a child and so she subsequently could not show love to her own children (my husband and his siblings)
Anyway because my husband now has LPA she is constantly accusing him of taking money, which of course he is not and also we have hassle from my SIL who refuses to get involved yet is only interested in her Mum's money (both Mother and Daughter) are obsessed with money!! My SIL lives a distance away and does not get on with her Mum and I just feel that it is all being landed on us!! Sorry to winge but just being human!!
I have done loads of appointments and phone calls but I never get any thanks from MIL and tomorrow I am off to a dementia friends meeting to find out any tips about communicating. My MIL will say about five or six words but it just comes out as a complete jumble.
Has anyone else out there suffered from this suspicion and do you ignore it or try and explain what you are doing?
Sorry just needed to vent as we seem to battling not just with MIL but with rest of family as well!!
I am the main carer for my MIL who is 81 and has been diagnosed with mixed dementia, vascular and alzheimer's just over a month ago.
We had to really push for all the appointments as her GP is just so awful!! It took him a whole month to write a letter recently and when the surgery told me that 4 GP's had recently left, I turned round to them and said it sounds like you are in crises!!
My MIL is a very independent woman who has if I am being completely honest never given much help over the years either emotionally or financially, in fact from an emotional point of view I would almost describe her as cold. I can only assume that she was never shown a lot of love as a child and so she subsequently could not show love to her own children (my husband and his siblings)
Anyway because my husband now has LPA she is constantly accusing him of taking money, which of course he is not and also we have hassle from my SIL who refuses to get involved yet is only interested in her Mum's money (both Mother and Daughter) are obsessed with money!! My SIL lives a distance away and does not get on with her Mum and I just feel that it is all being landed on us!! Sorry to winge but just being human!!
I have done loads of appointments and phone calls but I never get any thanks from MIL and tomorrow I am off to a dementia friends meeting to find out any tips about communicating. My MIL will say about five or six words but it just comes out as a complete jumble.
Has anyone else out there suffered from this suspicion and do you ignore it or try and explain what you are doing?
Sorry just needed to vent as we seem to battling not just with MIL but with rest of family as well!!