Hello all!
I've been reading really helpful posts for a few months now and felt like joining in with discussions.
Straight to the point... I was wondering whether anyone knew of any good groups or activities a young (55 year old) mum could participate in near Epsom/Banstead/Esher/Wimbledon? She participated in the local church's Wednesday lunch dance class for retirees but has recently begun to really struggle and so we pulled her out.
As a summary Im a 23 year old with 2 sisters - 26 and 32. Mum was diagnosed with alzeimers about 5 years ago and she has been very much deteriorating recently - sometimes aggressive, wanders out of the house onto the street, often angry and upset, finds it difficult to contribute to conversations and is becoming slightly incontenant. Dads been amazing - although a very organised, forward panning, bullet-point lover and hard working man, he's adapted well. He's even set up a social group for early-on set alzeimers from St George's hospital to do a social event on mass once a month (like theatre trip) and drink at a pub with just the careers once a month. But as I said mums situation has deteriorated recently and dad is struggling emotionally and with a full time job and only being able to afford 4 hours of care per working day (and he's out 8 hours a day). Saying that, Dad is considering working from home on Wednesdays and myself on Fridays as a start.
Biggest concerns are:
Hygiene - she wants to wear the same dress and underwear every day and even though dad now showers with her, it's a fighting battle every morning.
Her mood - sitting at home alone bored in front of the tele wouldn't do anyone any good...
How its affecting my dad - he's struggling between enjoying his work (which also acts as respite) and being with mum
This forum is brilliant and has provided me with lots of sound ideas to implement around the home. A couple of more points I'd like to add is we bought mum a GPS watch so can track her when she goes for a wander in the local town and have sewn her mobile and bank card into her handbag so she maintains ownership other belongings but we can call and locate the mobile if she looses it
I'm looking for advise for my mum but also my dad for a bit of respite. They are music lovers and dad in particular keen to meet similar aged (60) carers.
Thanks in advance
Xxx
I've been reading really helpful posts for a few months now and felt like joining in with discussions.
Straight to the point... I was wondering whether anyone knew of any good groups or activities a young (55 year old) mum could participate in near Epsom/Banstead/Esher/Wimbledon? She participated in the local church's Wednesday lunch dance class for retirees but has recently begun to really struggle and so we pulled her out.
As a summary Im a 23 year old with 2 sisters - 26 and 32. Mum was diagnosed with alzeimers about 5 years ago and she has been very much deteriorating recently - sometimes aggressive, wanders out of the house onto the street, often angry and upset, finds it difficult to contribute to conversations and is becoming slightly incontenant. Dads been amazing - although a very organised, forward panning, bullet-point lover and hard working man, he's adapted well. He's even set up a social group for early-on set alzeimers from St George's hospital to do a social event on mass once a month (like theatre trip) and drink at a pub with just the careers once a month. But as I said mums situation has deteriorated recently and dad is struggling emotionally and with a full time job and only being able to afford 4 hours of care per working day (and he's out 8 hours a day). Saying that, Dad is considering working from home on Wednesdays and myself on Fridays as a start.
Biggest concerns are:
Hygiene - she wants to wear the same dress and underwear every day and even though dad now showers with her, it's a fighting battle every morning.
Her mood - sitting at home alone bored in front of the tele wouldn't do anyone any good...
How its affecting my dad - he's struggling between enjoying his work (which also acts as respite) and being with mum
This forum is brilliant and has provided me with lots of sound ideas to implement around the home. A couple of more points I'd like to add is we bought mum a GPS watch so can track her when she goes for a wander in the local town and have sewn her mobile and bank card into her handbag so she maintains ownership other belongings but we can call and locate the mobile if she looses it
I'm looking for advise for my mum but also my dad for a bit of respite. They are music lovers and dad in particular keen to meet similar aged (60) carers.
Thanks in advance
Xxx