Dear Bel.
You don`t need to get cross if it`s against your nature.
When you see the consultant tell him you are being overlooked because you are not being assertive enough, you don`t want to get angry but your husband is suffering, you are suffering and he needs help.
Ask the consultant what you need to do to be listened to, and how many more months should you be expected to wait.
And write down what you want to say, so you don`t forget any of it.
I`m sorry for coming on so strongly but you and Bob are being neglected.
Love xx