I HATE SUNDOWNING, I find it one of the most difficult things to deal with.
Just putting it out there
Just putting it out there
I have to deal with my dad being obsessed about going to Malaysia ..........................
Very difficult especially when your not feeling so well
MaNaAk
The main change to that for us was Trazodone. When it occurs - rarely now - it is much easier to deal with than in the past.
Marion!
I feel better reading your post because eventhough it is more medicine for dad at least it is out there.
MaNaAk
DollyBird16@gene genie
Hi my Mum has vascular too and we get the same she says is ‘going out’ or in her really tormented times, she has got to get out of this place.
When it happens and it is so upsetting and exhausting. I make sure doors are locked and keys secured in a different place to usual.
I will then ask if we can sort tomorrow, it’s dark, it’s Sunday nothing will be open, we need to sit down and work out a good approach, we need a bigger bag to pack stuff in I’ll get one tomorrow, let’s have a cuppa before you go,i’ve just done dinner, we need to sort the drawer so we can see what to take, basically any excuse I can think of. Yes it goes on for a long time. I let her wonder off around the house on her own.
I never bother to try and explain it’s the offensive bully vascular that is doing this.
I so empathise with you.
One to make you smile I talked her out of one ‘outing’ over the phone the other day and she said ‘you really are giving me earache keep chatting on’ lol
When the times start I always tell myself it will be over in a few hours. That’s how it works at the moment maybe an hour or two peace between the episodes.
If only I had the power to wipe this vicious nasty disease out!
DollyBird16 I have tried all of those strategies I'm Sat here crying my heart out as it went on for 3 hours today I'm so worn out with it, I can deal with the forgetfulness the aggressive behavior the incontinence and all sorts of other symptoms but sundowning just exhausts me.@gene genie
Hi my Mum has vascular too and we get the same she says is ‘going out’ or in her really tormented times, she has got to get out of this place.
When it happens and it is so upsetting and exhausting. I make sure doors are locked and keys secured in a different place to usual.
I will then ask if we can sort tomorrow, it’s dark, it’s Sunday nothing will be open, we need to sit down and work out a good approach, we need a bigger bag to pack stuff in I’ll get one tomorrow, let’s have a cuppa before you go,i’ve just done dinner, we need to sort the drawer so we can see what to take, basically any excuse I can think of. Yes it goes on for a long time. I let her wonder off around the house on her own.
I never bother to try and explain it’s the offensive bully vascular that is doing this.
I so empathise with you.
One to make you smile I talked her out of one ‘outing’ over the phone the other day and she said ‘you really are giving me earache keep chatting on’ lol
When the times start I always tell myself it will be over in a few hours. That’s how it works at the moment maybe an hour or two peace between the episodes.
If only I had the power to wipe this vicious nasty disease out!
Thanks, just got mum to bed now I can spend an hour with my partner, before bed when hopefully I will be able to get 4 hours uninterrupted sleep. COne other tip. They are prescribed to be taken at lunch and tea time but I give them at around 3 pm and 7 or 8 pm to cover that sundowning period. Initially they may have a sedating effect but gradually just a calming effect.
Quick update mum is now in crisis care as I had a total meltdown on Monday, I've been caring for mum almost 13 months now with no back up or support of any kind.This seems to be common across all variations of Dementia. I try distraction techniques when mum starts this part of the day, it’s exhausting and I find later, when I’m alone all I want to do is howl.
Keep smiling