@Woo2 - no you are not being harsh regards brother. He does need to get to Mum’s house.
Mum has not been upset about the confabulations until this evening. I got a phone call about 4.30pm asking if I would speak to Mum as she was upset and confused. I have no idea whether Mum asked to speak to me or it was an easy option for them today. Currently I will always speak to Mum but I do sometimes wonder if some of the staff do not have the experience/training to distract or maybe still a bit short of staff at times.
Mum was crying and saying she had taken 2 girls to Rugby (place not game) and she needed to pick them up this evening but did not know how she was going to get there as she had forgotten where she was. (It’s ok Mum I will go and collect them) Then she was onto saying she would be in the tombstone by Sunday. (No Mum you are just a little tired today) Afterwards she thought I was her sister and started mentioning some people who lived opposite her sister and that she thought they were coming for tea but she didn’t have any food in. (I’ll pop to the shops for you). We ended up with more tears as she thought she was in trouble with her Mum and Dad ( of course not - you have done nothing wrong to get into trouble for and we all love you lots) Mum seems to think her Dad has put her in the home but she is not sure what the ‘home’ is (despite brother telling her quite a lot that it is a care home and she choose it)
It is awful when you can’t follow what the PWD is trying to communicate
@annielou. The bits above are what I could follow but a lot more I had to try and make the right replies. If I find it hard then how much worse is it for Mum trying to communicate what she is upset about. I just wanted to go and give her a big hug.
I spoke to a nurse at the home today after the phone call from Mum. She had a quick look through Mum’s note and it has been written that Mum appears more confused since new meds. It seems it is a case of give it For 2 weeks to see if her body adjusts to it, if not another consult with the Dr. Meanwhile they will test Mum for UTI.
Thank you both for the hugs.