So arrived today to find Mum’s room half packed up and a not very happy Mum. She thought she was going somewhere but not sure where. Then she said as we were off to a special event but she was not sure what she should be wearing. I said that as it was all wet and windy outside we couldn’t go anywhere. However I did need some help with a bundle of old photos I had found. So we headed down to the cafe area and went through the photos. The black and white ones she had no problems remembering but the newer ones she struggled with. We had a break by going to visit a few other friends on another floor (non dementia). Unless I am there though she really struggles. Mum is so aware that her speech is going and that she is struggling to find the right words more and more. I have noticed it too as I am finding it harder to guess what she wants to say. It’s another one of those moments that hurts both of us. Mum was still saying she was frightened as she had heard that the staff were spraying people with dirty water and that someone had had their finger chopped off.
Over the last 6 months I have tended to give Mum a choice between one or 2 things and she had found that manageable. The last few days whether it was what to have for lunch or what to do, she has started saying ‘whatever you think best’. I think I will have to take a different approach now and say ‘do you want coffee?’ and only mention tea if she says no to coffee.
I have also asked for Mum to be checked out for a UTI in case that is creating the delusions
Over the last 6 months I have tended to give Mum a choice between one or 2 things and she had found that manageable. The last few days whether it was what to have for lunch or what to do, she has started saying ‘whatever you think best’. I think I will have to take a different approach now and say ‘do you want coffee?’ and only mention tea if she says no to coffee.
I have also asked for Mum to be checked out for a UTI in case that is creating the delusions