I wouldn't know what to do about the pyjama trousers either, does she just wear them in the day or for bed too? Is she changing into them on a morning or forgetting to change into trousers and leaving them on do you think.
Its hard to leave them to it when you know old mum wouldn't have done that in a million years isn't it. I know people say this is a new mum we have to get used to and not judge by old mums standards but I find that hard, especially when my mum has times when she still judges others by her old standards.
Mum will wear her trousers and cardigans a couple of times but now forgets how many times she has already wore them and so most of the time will think that its first time she has had them on. She was doing this a lot before I stayed with her and when I stayed with her she would still do it but would often check with me if outfit ok before going in bathroom so I would tell her that needs washing mum. She used to get quite grumpy about it and we did have a good few heated discussions at times but mainly she would take my word for it. Now I'm coming home on a night again she is starting to do it again and also she keeps forgetting to wash her hair.
I used to have to tell her what day to wash her hair when I was there even though she has been doing it mainly on the same days for years. Mums hair luckily doesnt tend to get greasy and she only used to wash it twice a week but she keeps forgetting now I'm not there to remind her. Last week and this week she went 6 days.
She also had the same trousers on round the house 3 days last week and had put them on again on Tuesday when I went. She swore they were fresh on but I know they had not been washed over the weekend. Also they were her 'knock about trousers' as she calls old things she only wears round the house, and we were supposed to be going out but she was planning to wear them. Previously she wouldn't have gone out in public in them.
Luckily she spotted a blob of chocolate on them so changed them anyway. Though she did say that proved they were clean on that morning as that would be biscuit from her breakfast, except she has her breakfast before she goes in shower and gets dressed and I know she had done that morning as she was still in night things and said she'd just finished her tea and biscuits when I'd rung, but I was pleased she was changing out of them anyway so didn't say.
SW told us on one of visits if mum decides not to shower and have a wash instead, or not to get changed one day, or leave her hair wash for another day, it doesn't matter. But its not a choice, mum means to do it she just forgets and in her clearer moments asks me to tell her that she needs to wash hair or shower or change and is still horrified at thought of being unclean and untidy but when she forgets to do it she often gets angry as doesnt think she has forgot or if does remember she is probably embarrassed so tries to cover up.
Sis said SW probably knows its not a choice but was trying to play it down to keep mum on side and in mood to chat and maybe she was, but the next day when she was putting same trousers on for third time and sis tried to tell her gently she said well SW says I can if I want to. Of all the things to remember lol
Anyway sorry for the ramble and no helpful suggestions, but what I meant to say is ts hard to know what to do for best isn't it . Hugs (X)
Its hard to leave them to it when you know old mum wouldn't have done that in a million years isn't it. I know people say this is a new mum we have to get used to and not judge by old mums standards but I find that hard, especially when my mum has times when she still judges others by her old standards.
Mum will wear her trousers and cardigans a couple of times but now forgets how many times she has already wore them and so most of the time will think that its first time she has had them on. She was doing this a lot before I stayed with her and when I stayed with her she would still do it but would often check with me if outfit ok before going in bathroom so I would tell her that needs washing mum. She used to get quite grumpy about it and we did have a good few heated discussions at times but mainly she would take my word for it. Now I'm coming home on a night again she is starting to do it again and also she keeps forgetting to wash her hair.
I used to have to tell her what day to wash her hair when I was there even though she has been doing it mainly on the same days for years. Mums hair luckily doesnt tend to get greasy and she only used to wash it twice a week but she keeps forgetting now I'm not there to remind her. Last week and this week she went 6 days.
She also had the same trousers on round the house 3 days last week and had put them on again on Tuesday when I went. She swore they were fresh on but I know they had not been washed over the weekend. Also they were her 'knock about trousers' as she calls old things she only wears round the house, and we were supposed to be going out but she was planning to wear them. Previously she wouldn't have gone out in public in them.
Luckily she spotted a blob of chocolate on them so changed them anyway. Though she did say that proved they were clean on that morning as that would be biscuit from her breakfast, except she has her breakfast before she goes in shower and gets dressed and I know she had done that morning as she was still in night things and said she'd just finished her tea and biscuits when I'd rung, but I was pleased she was changing out of them anyway so didn't say.
SW told us on one of visits if mum decides not to shower and have a wash instead, or not to get changed one day, or leave her hair wash for another day, it doesn't matter. But its not a choice, mum means to do it she just forgets and in her clearer moments asks me to tell her that she needs to wash hair or shower or change and is still horrified at thought of being unclean and untidy but when she forgets to do it she often gets angry as doesnt think she has forgot or if does remember she is probably embarrassed so tries to cover up.
Sis said SW probably knows its not a choice but was trying to play it down to keep mum on side and in mood to chat and maybe she was, but the next day when she was putting same trousers on for third time and sis tried to tell her gently she said well SW says I can if I want to. Of all the things to remember lol
Anyway sorry for the ramble and no helpful suggestions, but what I meant to say is ts hard to know what to do for best isn't it . Hugs (X)